Exhausted Parents Share Their Stories | Part 1

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Exhausted Parents Share Their Stories | Part 1

Talk about being exhausted, no one knows the meaning of the word exhausted better than new parents. It’s a story for the ages, parenting infants is the ultimate form of tired! Time and time again baby cams show just how exhausted parents are. Stories are shared amongst exhausted parents in parenting groups. Parents open up and commiserate with one another over their lack of sleep and odd behaviors. The reality is exhausted parents make more mistakes than those who are well-rested. Just a heads up some of these stories are funny, others are terrifying, all end well, I promise.

Don’t let exhaustion sneak up on you and disrupt your quality of life.

Mike opens up about one of the worst days of his adult life.

I was alone for the sixth night in a row with our 6-month-old daughter and our son who was two and a half at the time. Teresa, my wife worked nights and I worked days. We worked opposite shifts, it was working for us up until this point. Our daughter was running a low-grade fever all day. We assumed teething since she was starting to chew on her hands and drool like crazy and there were no other symptoms. Teresa kept on eye on her, monitored her temperature, and she seemed fine otherwise.

Around 11:30 p.m. she woke, but instead of wanting a bottle like usual she was exceptionally unhappy, crying and kicking. I felt her and she was burning up. I checked her temperature and she was running a temperature around 102.6. At some point, Teresa called to check in on her. Call it mom intuition, but she knew Audrey wasn’t feeling well. I unswaddled her and tried to feed her a bottle which she mostly fought me on. Then I decided to give her some fever reducer. Well, she fought me on that too, but I was able to get her to take it. Finally, she fell asleep in my arms and I put her back down.

She woke again and again.

I gave her another dose of Tylenol around 3:30 a.m. When she woke again around 5 a.m. and I went in to get her something felt odd. I checked her temperature and it was still at 102-103 ish. I called Teresa who was due to be home by 7:30 a.m. to let her know I was going to call our pediatrician. She asked when the last time was I gave her the fever reducer and then reminded me I could alternate Tylenol and Motrin every 3 hours if needed.

So I went to get the Motrin and could not for the life of me remember the last time was I gave her a dose of Tylenol. I told Teresa I remembered giving it at 11:30 p.m. when I went in the first time, but couldn’t remember the time of the last dose.

All went quiet on the other end.

Teresa was silent as she checked her call log on her phone. She insisted it was 1:30 a.m. when she first called not 11:30 p.m. when I gave Audrey the Tylenol. I was sure it was 11:30 p.m., or was it 1:30 a.m., I couldn’t say for certain and that scared the shit out of me. I looked at the bottle of Tylenol and that scared the shit out of me. What came next was even worse. Teresa was panicked and left work immediately.

From the time our call ended and the time Teresa got home from work, Audrey had thrown up all over the kitchen and her crib while I attempted to clean it up. Her pediatrician called back and advised us to go to the hospital, but we were already on our way at that point.

That day was a blur.

I cried, Teresa cried, and Audrey cried helplessly. We felt like horrible parents when we were really weren’t, we were just exhausted parents They drew blood from her tiny veins, gave her I.V. fluids and bombarded us with lots of questions no good parents should have to answer. There we were, two parents scared shitless and I knew at that moment sleep deprivation almost cost me my most precious gift, our daughter.

Audrey made a full recovery.

Teresa continued to work nights, and I cut back on my hours during the day to help at home more. One of the best things we did though was hired The Jax Baby Company to come in one day and two nights a week overnight so we could both sleep all night long. Liz was terrific. She made the nights run so smoothly. We knew if she needed to wake us she wouldn’t hesitate, but week after week she handled it all seamlessly so we could both rest. We both agree, hiring help is the best investment exhausted parents can make!

Elizabeth recalls the night she knew she needed to call in reinforcements!

It was late or early, I don’t really remember, but I was up a few times through the night with our daughter. This time she had soaked through her diaper and clothes. So I got her cleaned up and put her back to sleep in her crib. The next thing I know it’s 6:30 a.m. and my husband’s calling my name from the other room. I walk in to see why he’s calling me and low and behold there she was soaked and crying. Staring at me with a confused look on his face my husband says, “Where’s her diaper?” I patted her bottom and then had to stop and try to remember the night in fragmented bits and pieces.

Holy shiitake! I had actually put her in a clean sleeper and totally forgotten to put a diaper on her. We laughed so hard we cried and if I’m being completely honest I peed myself a little too! Thank you pregnancy and childbirth! This is baby number three, not my first rodeo! That was the moment I knew I needed some solid stretches of sleep and I’d have to call in help to get it. Cue hiring help one night a week for a couple of months so this mama could get a full 10-hours of uninterrupted sleep!

All parents make mistakes, some are funny, others not at all!

However, exhausted parents can’t keep at it for an extended period of time. Eventually, it catches up to them. Sleep can’t be caught up on or stored up on. Healthy sleep habits from day one are important. Our team at The Jax Baby Company is here to help parents get the sleep they so desperately need while getting their little ones off to a phenomenal start as well!

A special thank you to the parents who willingly participated in this blog series. Stay tuned for Part 2 of Exhausted Parents Who Share Their Stories!

Happy Birth & Parenting,

Elizabeth Luke

If you’ve not seen the video below of Kyle Baker’s wife, Joanna Baker and their daughter, check it out! All ends well and it’s totally relatable, but man they could have really benefited from having a postpartum and infant care specialist there at night!

Self-Care for the Newly Postpartum Mother

What is self-care for the newly postpartum mother?

Meredith Brooks and Alanis Morisette were on to something when they sang the song, “I’m a bitch!” Think about it…

I’m a Bitch, I’m a Lover
I’m a child, I’m a Mother
I’m a sinner, I’m a saint
I do not feel ashamed.
I’m your hell, I’m your dream
I’m nothing in between,
You know you wouldn’t want it any other way.

As mothers, we wear so many damn hats that we often forget to STOP and take the time we need and absolutely deserve to care for ourselves. In the early weeks after childbirth self-care very much looks like brushing our teeth two times a day, finishing a meal while it’s still hot warm, and saying “yes” to ourselves more!

10 Ideas for Self-Care for the Newly Postpartum Mother:

So Naturally First, Say “Yes” to You

Yes, yes, yes! You deserve to say yes to you instead of do, do, doing for everyone else all the time. You have permission to take care of you! You deserve to have others take care of you! Saying yes to you also means relinquishing some responsibility and control over the things you normally task yourself with. Even if it means things are done in a way you would never do them yourself! Even if they’re not done at all. It will be okay, everyone will survive, everyone will manage! Prioritize your priorities, scale back, and step away. Think about much more how appreciative everyone will be , when you return to those duties once again.

Watch a Comedy or Binge Watch Your Favorite Uplifting Netflix or Hulu Series

The right comedy can change your day! Like sneezing, seeing others laugh is contagious. So, get a shower (and brush your teeth), climb into a comfy spot, and laugh your ass off! Need some ideas? Off the top of my head: Jo Koy on Netflix is hilarious! What’s on Your F*ck List is a quick Ted Talk that rocks!

Schedule a Video Chat

Everyone has their person! The person who lifts their spirits, who makes them smile and laugh, or who will just offer an ear without trying to fix anything! So reach out to your person, set a date (very soon), make yourself or ask your postpartum specialist to make you a warm cup of tea, grab a piece of your favorite chocolate that you’ve had stashed and enjoy! No chocolate? Oh girl, phone a friend fast!

Let the Sunlight In

If you can, just sit outside, it’ll help lift your spirits! If you can’t pull back those blinds while you’re awake and bask in the rays of the sun’s light. Read a book, listen to music or just be present while paying close attention to your breath. Allow your body to feel and breathe. Another way to enjoy the sunlight is while listening to a great audio-book or relaxing music!

Eat a Nice Dinner

Perhaps you have a feel good, comfort food meal? If you do, request that meal bprepared for you. No preference on the meal? Your postpartum specialist, family, friends, or partner can freestyle or use a recipe they pull and surprise you! Actually I love that idea, relinquish that and put the metaphoric ball in their court! Enjoy that meal all alone if you prefer or with someone you love. While I’m here I’ll just mention briefly how important healthy snacks and staying hydrated are for the newly postpartum mum! Snack, snack, snack!

Guided Meditation

Meditation can help by quieting the overactive mind, the racing thoughts. You can begin identifying with the silence that exists between every thought or action. Centering yourself is a skill that anyone can learn, once they have the intention and the experience of what it feels like. With an amazing teacher, hurdles can be overcome. The good news is anyone can meditate! Guided meditation is the perfect start!

Numerous scientific studies have found meditation to be effective in helping to treat anxiety.  One study, published in the Psychological Bulletin, combined the findings of 163 different studies. The overall conclusion was that practicing mindfulness or meditation produced beneficial results, with a substantial improvement in areas like negative personality traits, anxiety, and stress. 

Create a Banner with Positive Affirmations

Positive self-talk, notes around your home, and a lovely banner hung to remind you how amazing you are! One part of your journey does NOT define who you are as a person! Great mothers are tired, they’re short-tempered, they don’t all wear makeup every day. Your home can be a mess, some events can be missed skipped, you can say no, and kids don’t always have to be entertained for you to be a “good” mother! Create a banner, fly your flags all over your home, car, or anywhere else you need to so that you are reminded that you are amazing!

Pedicure

If you’re like most moms your feet take a beating during pregnancy and the early postpartum. They’re one of the most abused parts of your body, aside from the place where your adorable crotch-fruit made their grand entrance! Your feet deserve pampering. Ask for an extra few minutes in the chair, put on your sleep mask, plug in those ear buds and snooze! Enjoy that shit, you deserve it!

Haircut and Style

All that shedding, all that postpartum sweating = nighttime yuckiness! Get out and get your hair did! Seriously, ask your stylist to take an extra few minutes on your wash! Tell her you NEED that! Ask her to brush your hair a little longer! Then take a long slow walk down the Target diaper aisle like the sexy Wonder Woman you are!

Handwork not Hard Work

Relinquish your mom duties, close the door, and pop in a pair of earbuds so you’re not tempted to go “help out” and create some magical shit!! Paint, color in an adult coloring book, crochet, or knit! Get crafty with it! Busy your hands and free your mind. Say “YES” to you!

We hope you find these ideas helpful!

In addition to taking care of one’s self it’s important to get the medical help you need to be the healthiest you can be! Do not hesitate to reach out if you need a referral to see a medical provider or a postpartum counselor. This list was created with love and compassion for all of you new moms out there! Self-care for the newly postpartum mother doesn’t have to be tricky or hard, it just has to allow the mother to take time for herself so she can heal and give her best self to those she loves most! Also, once you’ve been cleared by your medical professional find a workout routine that is right for you! Exercise does wonders for mental and physical health!

Happy Birth and Parenting!

~Elizabeth Luke

How Can a Postpartum and Infant Doula Help Me?

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How Can a Postpartum and Infant Doula Help Me?

You’ve heard the words postpartum and infant doula, but you’re wondering what exactly they mean together, what they do, and how can they help you?! First, you’re not alone! Most people have no idea what a postpartum and infant doula is. So breathe a sigh of relief you aren’t alone in the forest.

The word postpartum tends to get a bad rap.

Most people hear the word postpartum and immediately think of depression after a person gives birth.  Like prenatal and antenatal means during pregnancy, postpartum simply means the period of time after birth. Sure the postpartum time period can entail the baby blues, depression, anxiety, OCD, and psychosis, but it doesn’t always include those things.

A Postpartum and Infant Doula is a non-medical support person who is by your side after you have your baby!

While we can’t speak for all Doulas, First Coast Doulas are knowledgeable, trained, and skilled in compassionate care for families with babies!

While every family is different and their needs are unique there are challenges all new parents face. We add value to your family dynamics no matter what that looks like. Would you consider your family traditional, cool! Single parent home, you rock! Blended family, we love you all too! Polyamorous families, we see you!

So, how can a Postpartum and Infant Doula help?

Sleep

Be it your first baby or your fifth sleep is a key component of good mental and physical health. We help parents get the necessary amount of sleep day in and day out!

Nourishment

Keeping up after baby is no easy task. Keeping the body fueled is another component of good health. We prep snacks and meals and bring it right to your bedside. We’ll even run out for your cravings! Life is busier than ever, we got you!

Emotional Support

Having a baby brings out all of the emotions. Your doula knows! We’re skilled in the art of emotional attunement! From weepy, raging, and numb to everything in between we see it, we recognize it, and we are comfortable talking about it and being there to see you through it!

Companionship

You need to heal, rest, and care for baby. That doesn’t mean you should feel like an outcast or be confined to isolation. Ugh, we hear it all the time, “I feel so alone.” Your doula makes going out, or staying in more enjoyable. Your doula can tend to your baby while we all walk Target or grab lunch! On the flip side we can stay in, bake cookies, and watch your favorite episodes wth you too!

Team Work

A second set of hands, eyes, and a compassionate heart! We can wear your baby while you get a nap. Keeping him, her, or them soothed. We’re skilled in the art of toddler wrangling and bathing too! Calling in help doesn’t mean you can’t do it, it may just mean you are wise to value another compassionate human to give your babies attention too!

Self-Care

All this talk about self-care and no time for it sucks! Keep your hair appointment and book that massage, we’ll come along and keep baby happy and unwanted hands off! You can relax knowing that during a bubble bath or a phone call with your girlfriend on the patio your baby is with the very best and only a room away!

So, in short your postpartum and infant doula is like a magical unicorn! She appears when you need her most, anticipates your needs before you even know you need it, and she makes magic happen!

Laundry and dishes, done!

Laughs and a safe place to cry, she’s your girl!

Pizza and drink, just say wine or whiskey!

Ssshhhhh….it’s not really magic, but it sure feels like it! Contact our “magical unicorns” for a complimentary phone consult!

 

My Baby Won’t Sleep, What Should I Do?

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My Baby Won’t Sleep, What Should I Do?

One of the first challenges parents face is how to get better sleep. I get emails daily, “Help! My baby won’t sleep, what should I do?” Healthy sleep habits are important! Sure, “Sleep when baby sleeps” they say! Who are “they” and do they actually have children? That could work for a first baby, but second and third babies means you’re likely being worn thin and your entire house may seem to be ruled by one, or maybe even two tiny humans.

Woah! Put the brakes on!

Parenting is hard enough! Doing it on little to no sleep is unreasonable. No one functions well or to their full potential when they aren’t well rested, including your baby bean! Healthy sleep habits are so important. For you, your children, and for the family unit as a whole. By learning and teaching your infant healthy sleep habits early on you are helping them master a life skill!

What an empowering opportunity that is!

From my baby won’t sleep to my baby is sleeping so much better?!

What a feeling!

Did you google, “My baby won’t sleep, what do I do?” Do you believe your baby should be sleeping longer through the night? Are you set on getting off to a great start early on? Do you just want to get more sleep while one of our team members works with your little one on healthy sleep practices? The Jax Baby Company, a.k.a. Team Sleep Jax is the sleep solution for families in Jacksonville, Florida.

Our Team Sleep Jax members are certified postpartum and infant care specialists who work with families at night specifically to help them get more sleep.

The Jax Baby Company can:

  • listen to your concerns
  • validate your feelings through this process
  • teach you about safer sleep and more healthy sleep habits
  • show you some techniques and give tips
  • help you establish and implement routine and schedule
  • help you to teach your baby the life skill of sleep

Parents who are”at the end of their rope”, “out of ideas”, or who just want to get their babies and their family off to a great start are putting Team Sleep Jax on their home team.

Together we’re creating more peaceful bedtimes and burning less midnight oil! If you want to learn more about The Jax Baby Company’s dream team we’d love to hear from you! We are happy to set up a complimentary phone consult to learn more about the challenges you’re facing and to match you with the right sleep package!

Happy Birth & Parenting

Elizabeth Luke

“My baby won’t sleep unless she’s in my arms,

being adorn like the sweetest of charms!

Not in the house when it’s as quiet as a mouse,

Not in a car driving near or far,

She will not sleep unless she’s held.

Where’s my husband? I need to be spelled!

Not in her crib, not on her back,

Not while laying flat or in a sleep sack.

Not in her swing. Not in the dark.

Not while in the stroller at the park.

My baby, I love you. We both need to relax,

Mommy is calling in the help of Team Sleep Jax!

~Elizabeth Luke

Star of The Bachelorette Eats Her Placenta! Will You Do the Same?

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Star of The Bachelorette Eats Her Placenta! Will You Do the Same?

Star of The Bachelorette eats her placenta, will you? That’s a question many pregnant moms are asking themselves and each other. Okay, hold on just one minute, first let’s address the verbiage used. And you can say eat, ingest, consume, whatever your preference is just go with it for a few minutes. I encourge you to stay open-minded!

With the recent news of Jillian Harris (stared on The Bachelor & Bachelorette) blogging about her personal experience with placenta encapsulation and Anna Williamson sharing her plans to ingest her placenta I decided now is the perfect time to release the results of the poll First Coast Doulas did earlier this year. We polled 25 people about their personal experience with placenta encapsulation with First Coast Doulas.

 

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I find that this poll and the results are extremely powerful! A win for families!

The only down side to what Jillian mentions in her blog and Anna mentions in her interview is the pickup of their placentas and drop-off of their pills, because again, those are not the standards by which First Coast Doulas or our certifying organization operates. I’m sorry, not sorry. I can’t let you leave here without mentioning it’s simply isn’t the highest standards, but whatev! To each their own?!

There are a few things I often tell people about placenta encapsulation.

First, professional placenta encapsulation with First Coast Doulas is like an insurance policy for after birth. When done properly it can’t hurt you, only help you! You may feel great after birth and in the weeks and months to come, or you may not. There are no do overs, once your placenta is gone, it’s gone!

Secondly, it’s the service everyone is purchasing, but not many people are talking about! Other celebrities have spoken out, and about half of our clients share openly. For every one of them who share though there those who that stay private about it, because let’s face it, who wants to be judged or questioned after they give birth? Noone!

Placenta encapsulation is that little buffer, and who doesn’t need that?!

First Coast Doulas has the highest standards in place for our clients. We’re the very safest in the Jacksonville, FL area and we deliver the best experience, not just a service.

The star of The Bachelorette eats her placenta, and if you are considering the same, or just have questions, contact us today and let us tell you more about this placenta encapsulation!

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Your Placenta; A Modern Approach to an Age Old Practice

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Your Placenta: A Modern Approach to an Age Old Practice

Your placenta is a modern day marvel! Perhaps you’ve taken a class that talked briefly about the placenta. Maybe you’ve read about the function of your placenta in relation to pregnancy. It carries oxygenated blood and nutrients to the baby. In addition it carries waste and de-oxygenated blood away from the baby and then exits the body through the mother. Many moms have heard the term “placenta previa”, “placenta acreta” or “low-lying placenta”. You probably know that your placenta must function and be healthy to grow and sustain your baby. Has told you that your placenta can be taken as an all-natural supplement after giving birth to your baby? You totally can!

More and more women are learning about their placenta and the “magic” it holds!

Now, I know this may seem a little odd, maybe even a little gross initally, but stick with me for a moment. What many people don’t know about the human placenta is that everyday moms just like you are hiring professionals to dry, powder, and put their placentas into a small capsule supplement to ingest in the weeks after they give birth.

Wait, what?

Go ahead, take a moment to process that. Most people need to think on it for at least a few minutes!

Now, I know you have questions. We have answers! First question is always, “Why?” Why in the world would anyone want to ingest/eat their placenta? I’m talking about the very popular, age old practice that is gaining modern day attention! The practice of placenta encapsulation.

Women who take their placenta internally in the weeks after giving birth boast that their capsules are their “magic pills”. The say they enjoyed the process and their post-birth experience more!

Number one benefit women report is energy! Noticeable energy!

They also say their placenta capsules contributed to their healthy breastmilk supply. Many moms are surprised that they also experience fewer bouts of crying and sadness as expected or experienced with past births. Your placenta can be beneficial in the fight against postpartum mood disorders like the postpartum depression and postpartum anxiety. So that’s the why!

By now you’re probably feeling a little less grossed out and little more intrigued.

Another question is how?! Basically after giving birth to your baby you have to give birth to your placenta. It is the only organ your body grows that is temporary. You grow and birth a new one with each baby! Your placenta is examined after birth and then it’s either discarded as medical waste, used for other things such as cosmetics and hair-care products, or your placenta can be used to make a completely unique-to-you supplement! One that when handled, stored, and prepared properly can only help you not hurt you! It can help you feel more balanced and an overall sense of well-being.

Your placenta can help you enjoy your newest family member even more!

Ingesting your placenta in capsule form isn’t really that far-fetched now is it? After all, almost every mammal on the face of the Earth ingests their placenta after birth! The only difference here is that you have the convenience of a socially acceptable capsule and a professional to provide this service to you in the safest way possible! Benefits of placenta encapsulation can begin within a few days post-birth and can last anywhere from 4 weeks up till about a year!

Just imagine that, a post-birth boost that last up until about your baby’s 1st birthday!

For more information about the process or to find a Certified Postpartum Placenta Specialist in your area please contact us! We look forward to answering your questions!

Combating Postpartum Sadness

 

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Combatting Postpartum Sadness

I’m often asked if I have suggestions for natural ways to deal with postpartum sadness. I absolutely do! Not only will I share those with you, but I am including a free printable with you at the end of the blog. Don’t forget to print it and hang it somewhere you’ll see it and use it!

First Coast Doulas brings love light and laughter to birth and parenting and love energy, and healing after birth! With that in mind here are my suggestions for combating normal postpartum sadness:

Rest

Rest as much and as often as possible and sleep when you can! You may not fully understand that suggestion until you are living that life. This might mean short, frequent increments or a few longer stretches. Also, skin to skin time with your baby is beneficial to you both. Snuggling and resting together is one way to help strengthen your bond.

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Shower Power

Every day! Besides smelling “so fresh and so clean, clean” {I hear Outkast in my head}, how much more relaxed and revived do you feel when you get a nice warm shower? Feels pretty damn good, right?! Well, birthing a baby and caring for his, her or their needs is work. Getting a shower helps you transform from mom zombie back to the land of the living! Make it high priority every day even if you’re going back to bed!

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Get Out

Going outside a couple times each day helps you see the world in a new light so to speak! Whether it’s on your own front porch with your feet up or taking a short stroll around the block you benefit and so does your little one! Say “hi” to a neighbor! Who knows you may make a new friend in an unlikely place. Find other parents and talk with them; whatever you do don’t shut yourself in.

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Find Your Path

When you became pregnant the stories and advice began. It continues after you deliver your baby. Lots of great advice out there and not so great advice too! Save yourself a lot of time and energy by trusting yourself. I promise you, YOU ARE ENOUGH! No one knows it all, no one right way is best. I encourage you to trust your own judgment.

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Me Time

Whether you enjoy solitude or prefer to think of it as “me, myself, and I time”, do something for yourself each day that lasts 20-30 minutes. Purpose and make time every day.  Perhaps you struggle with feeling like you don’t deserve that fraction of time for yourself each day. Well, it’s not all about you! It benefits your entire family unit when you feel better. Your baby feels your energy! Need ideas? Soak in the tub, do yoga, read, dance, write, paint, take a slow drive and listen to music or chat with an encouraging friend by phone. Get a facial. Skies the limit!

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Deep Breathes

Lots of them. New parents are super sensitive to the cries of their newborn. You’ve heard other newborns cry and you don’t remember it that way, right?! Well, your baby’s cries are for you! Your Spidey senses can be overwhelming, remember lots of deep breathes! Deep breathes help with mental clarity, stress relief, and it decreases your blood pressure. Oh and it feels nice!

A newborn baby’s last effort is crying. Focusing on their cues before they begin crying can help you learn them and their needs, and believe me you will, it just takes time. Once they’re crying and aren’t easily consolable parents can feel a sense of panic or urgency to “fix” the problem.  However, sometimes you’ve done all the things and they still cry its o.k.  Be patient with yourself, take deep breathes, you do the best you can, and repeat.

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I could wrap up the blog now… but I just wouldn’t feel right if I didn’t share with you what I believe so passionately in! I’ll make it short.

Two things:

Professional Placenta Encapsulation

With First Coast Doulas can help you heal faster, have more energy and living the life you love! We are providing this service in the absolute safest most beneficial way possible!

Professional Postpartum & Infant Doula Support

I’ve saved the best for last! Be proactive in your approach. Prepare for the life you want now before it hits you in the face!  There’s no way to know for certain which challenges will lie ahead, but no doubt you’ll face them.

Hire First Coast Doulas for exceptional support through pregnancy, birth, and well into the first year after birth! Studies corroborate having professional support through these delicate years’ impacts families for generations. Hire First Coast Doulas, feel supported, have more of your needs met, and get more rest!

Repeat after me, “This is today. This is not yesterday, tomorrow, or forever. It is only for today”

That is one of my very favorite affirmations! While some bouts of sadness after birth can be normal some are out of the range of normal and require the person to discuss what they’re feeling with a medical professional for diagnosis, and possible treatment plan. This blog is not intended to, nor should it replace medical care.

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Improving Postpartum Sadness

 

 

The CDC reports 1 in 10 women experience postpartum depression. This number doesn’t include those who “keep quiet” out of fear of being judged or locked away. This number doesn’t include mothers who have given birth to a stillborn baby or who suffered loss during pregnancy. It also doesn’t include those who are battling, struggling, or suffering with postpartum psychosis, OCD, PTSD, anxiety, or other perinatal mood disorders. If those things were included we would be looking at a number much higher. Most likely around 20%.

What Women Need After Birth Is…

What Women Need After Birth Is…

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Elizabeth Luke, owner of First Coast Doulas asked 48 women and 24 men to answer this question, “What women need after birth is  __________.” You might be able to relate to their answers, or they may just catch you off guard and make you go hhmmm.

First Coast Doulas knows the challenges new families face.

Every experience is different and unique. We know that just because things went awry during birth or afterwards once doesn’t mean you are destine to that next go around, there’s support available. Preparing for what possibly lies ahead can mean the difference between feeling supported and having your voice heard versus feeling alone and like you had no say or support in your corner.

Without further ado here are 72 answers to the question, “What women need after birth is __________?

 

The women who were polled answered the question, “What women need after birth is ___________?”

* number of women with the same answer

  • someone to feed my older kids
  • a laundry fairy *4
  • someone to show me ways to care for and soothe my baby (you can only learn so much from books and videos) *2
  • someone at home with me so I didn’t have to be alone, no one should “have” to be alone after giving birth
  • someone to listen *3
  • food: healthy, warm food
  • two more arms and wine
  • support with breastfeeding
  • someone to care for the baby so I could play with my other children
  • freedom to cry and not get questioned
  • more time off work *5
  • my friends and family to help me without having to ask them *3
  • someone to hold my baby so I could shower *5
  • “a bottle washer I hated washing those damn bottles with a baby in the NICU”
  • someone to help at night, just at night
  • energy to do things *5
  • someone to get the older kids ready for school and do homework with them
  • to hold my baby first *2
  • time to myself, for myself, space
  • sleep *6
  • a pediatrician that understood breastfeeding *2

The men who were polled answered the question, “What women need after birth is____________?”

* number of men with the same answer

pain meds and those ice pack pad things

  • peace and quiet *2
  • food, my wife needed pizza *2, but only 1 said pizza
  • a trophy
  • sleep *5
  • their mother or sister because I didn’t understand any of it
  • time alone with the baby to bond *3
  • their husband *3
  • chocolate
  • more maternity leave *3
  • people around who respect her decisions *2
  • the bed to herself

First Coast Doulas offers services to help you reach your goals for birth and postpartum.

Do you know what a postpartum doula does? Probably not, most people don’t! Do you know what almost every single client we’ve had says? Go ahead take a guess, please!

It’s something along the lines of, “I had no idea this service was available”, or “where were you when I had my first?”

We get calls from women who’ve given birth and most of the time they expected they would bounce back rather quickly and life would be an easy transition. Either because they bounced back with their first, “Marcy and Tina went right back to work and life”, or they just really had no idea of what to expect. After all this is an all new territory, remember every birth is different.

While loved ones and friends get back to their own jobs, lives, and obligations, First Coast Doulas make you their top priority!

First Coast Doulas can support you with latching your baby at birth.

We’re knowledgeable about breastfeeding, helping you care for your newborn, and healing after birth.

We can lay out all the options so you can choose what’s best for you and your baby!

We help create a safe space for women to talk and unload as needed.

We help moms eat healthier snacks, help the family understand what they can do to help, help tidy up a little, and help keep that laundry fairy in check!

First Coast Doulas helps mothers, babies, and partners have an easier transition after birth!

First Coast Placenta is bring love, energy, and healing to women after birth.

 

An Alligator, Gorilla, and A Coward Walked Into A Bar

An Alligator, Gorilla, and A Coward Walked Into A Bar

An Alligator, Gorilla, and A Coward Walked Into A Bar

An Alligator, Gorilla, and A Coward Walked Into A Bar

While the tragic events that have happened recently are no joke, the way many are responding is. What kind of people judge others on their parenting skills and for the love they have for another human being? Since when has judgement trumped love and compassion? What good can come from throwing stones, name calling, and finger pointing?

We have no right to judge. Have we forgotten that we are not perfect, that we make mistakes, every damn one of us? You are an imperfect person, we are all imperfect people!

What nightmare are we living here?

We are humans, but we’ve become apex predators, more violent than any wild animal. This is our reality and it’s not good at all. The animals are being animals. The children free-spirited, fearless, and learning through play. Our children play, explore, and are curious!

Most people love their children, even those facing drug addiction and debilitating mental disorders. Majority of the time they do not want harm to come to their children.

We have a responsibility to our children. Physical, emotional, and intellectual well-being. Sometimes that is holding their hand every step of the way and other times it means letting go and being there, close by when they ask or need for our help. Have you survived teen years yet?!

We have marriages, mortgage payments, other children, jobs, sick or dying loved ones, and ourselves to care for too!

Meanwhile we parent with life in motion, while juggling work, while balancing life!

You take a quick phone call quick while they play in the tub.

You engage in conversation about the big game last night with another father at the park while you kids disappear from your direct line of sight for a few chaotic minutes.

You let your baby keep that blankie with them as they finally fall asleep on their tummy after hours and hours of crying with no sleep. You dare not risk waking him.

You allow an older, more responsible sibling to take your youngest to the potty who can’t hold it at a restaurant while you deal with your infant who just projectile vomited in the car seat.

You allow your child to run around with a lollipop so they will stop screaming so you can have five damn minutes to gather your thoughts after getting the news your mother has cancer.

You come out of the bathroom to find your toddler has learned operate the child locks and has bleach in her hand or how to get out on the back patio near the pool which he could easily have fell into.

These are situations where accidents could have happened, and they have happened.

Most of us have had a baby fall from a bed. Could we have done more? Maybe! Are kids going to be kids? Yes! Are parents going to make mistakes? Oh hell yes we do, don’t insert “but” here. No buts! Accidents do happen!

Your child could have been these children, you could have been those parents, we all could have been. So please, stop! Stop the judgement and hate, choose love!

Humans have become more predatorily than wild animals. More deaths occur in our country every year than all accidental deaths by animals combine.

So an alligator, gorilla, and a coward walked into a bar and all hell broke loose. This animal disguised as a person took the hate and anger he had for himself and projected it onto others. He killed so many for no reason other than hate. What he did was heartless and senseless, but prepare to see more of this hate if we do not decide to change.

It starts with you, it starts with me. It starts with stopping!

We are all mirrors! What we say, do, and project onto others is a direct reflection of how we feel about ourselves. Are your words kind and compassionate or full of hate and judgement?

I know you’ve heard these: sometimes less is more, those who live in glasses houses shouldn’t throw stones, and two wrongs don’t make a right. We are responsible for our actions, our words, and our thoughts. Perhaps we judge less and love more!

Feel, think, process… then respond!

Hate breeds hate. Love changes things! Choose love!

 

Our colleagues at Hampton Roads Doulas also wrote a fantastic blog. Please go over and show them some love too!