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Our Bodies Are Not Perfect

Our bodies are not perfect! I feel no shame in saying that. We need glasses when our eyes are meant to see with. We’re born with ears and yet hearing aids are needed. We’re sometimes given legs that don’t walk and organs that grow outside of our bodies. Our bodies are not perfect and it doesn’t hurt us or reduce our existence to admit this.

Death isn’t something we want to think about, yet like birth, we will also all die. Some of us are faced with untimely deaths, this is reality. Spend any amount of time in labor and delivery or working with expecting parents and you realize that not every baby will survive while others beat all odds. I know, it’s HORRIBLE and absolutely heartbreaking to think about, but it’s true.

What’s crazier?

The natural birth culture that pregnant moms face in 2020 often leads to the conclusion that they really don’t accept the preventable death of babies. Say what?!

When we say things such as, “Your baby will come when he’s ready”, “It’s the way it was intended, the natural way” (hello tornados, earthquakes, and rattlesnakes are natural too), “It’s just a guess date, not an expiration date”, we’re ignoring reality. This reality slaps the faces of those who’ve lived through preterm birth, experienced infertility, have a chemical imbalance, and who’ve survived the death of an infant when a pregnancy becomes post-date and doesn’t beat the odds.

We should avoid saying these things altogether.

Seriously, STOP!

By saying these things it shows that the person doesn’t understand the emotional aspect of supporting a person through labor and childbirth. Learning to use better language, ask questions that challenge pregnant people to work through their nervousness, fear, or anxieties surrounding childbirth would be a better course of action or response.

Our bodies are not perfect and it’s totally cool because our self-worth is no way determined by our bodily functions!

Our bodies are not perfect and there’s more harm than I’m willing to assume the risk of by saying otherwise. Our bodies do amazing things and they do weird shit! We’re unique and have quirks. We’re different, and imperfectly perfect, sure, but our bodies are not perfect.

There is no one size fits all approach to childbirth or parenting.

There are just too many variables in play. If care providers step aside and believe our bodies are perfect and all babies will come on their own time every time, we will lose more babies. If they believe they can save every single baby by way of interventions every time, when there’s literally no way to do that, we fail by over intervention. We suffer birth injury and sometimes even death. When we believe inducing everyone at the same exact gestation can lead to more harm than good we lose babies. Vice versa just waiting until the baby is ready to come on his own can lead to post-date infant loss too.

Midwives and OBGYN’s are human beings, extraordinary ones at that!

They’re doing the best they can to the best of their ability, each and every time. Some may be too hands-off while others may be too intervention happy. It happens. They’re trying to do their very best, to save as many lives as they can, and deserve grace and kindness along the way.

Our bodies are not perfect and in many ways, we trade the risk of intervention for the risk of losing a baby.

Who should get to decide that? I believe whole-heartedly the parents should get to decide that, with or without their provider’s approval, but hopefully they’ve talked it through with their care providers, they trust their providers, and have been thoroughly and honestly counseled on the matter.

Our bodies are not perfect. The way of the world isn’t perfect.

Anyone who believes that it is foolish and has never witnessed or experienced trauma in birth. You cant eliminate all death in pregnancy or completely stop birth complications from happening. We can try, but we can’t stop it. There’s a balance that must happen.

Our bodies are not perfect, but nothing in life is!

We can be happy with how things go, we can be terribly sad, or grieve how things go, life isn’t perfect and that’s okay!

We can prepare for childbirth none-the-less!

How?

You can take a childbirth class that doesn’t set you up to feel like you’ve failed. Because there is no right or wrong way to birth, only different ways and ways you accept or ways you do not.

Take a class that helps you learn about birth, the variations, how to communicate your needs, and get answers to your questions. Find a class that is NOT focused on birthing the “right” way or on using the “best” method. The way you give birth is not the first act of love for your child. There is no right or wrong way it is simply the way your body needs to do things. If you start letting your physical functions determine your self-worth things get messy. Most aspects of birth are out of your control. Choose a class that teaches you how to advocate for yourself and prepares you for the worst and the best-case scenarios.

You can find the care providers that feel good to you!

Ask about their philosophical approach to birth. Ask the tough questions. How are your provider’s communication skills? It’s important to trust and feel good about your care providers. Are you treated kindly, respectfully, and with autonomy? You’re looking for woman-centered life-saving care, both are important.

You can line up support for after you give birth! You’re gonna need it, we all do! We may not all get it, but we sure do need it!

Our team is completely present for you as you welcome your baby home or come home with empty arms and broken hearts.

We’re there to lighten your load. We will nourish your body and ease your mind where we can. We listen empathetically, validate your feelings and concerns, and help find real solutions for the solvable issues. Our team is there to help you rest, sleep, and heal. Likewise, we’ll be there to commiserate and comfort you when there is no fixing the shit you’ve endured. People often overlook the period of time after birth, they fail to prepare and they regret it greatly. Don’t skip on fourth-trimester preparations!

Our bodies are not perfect, and we can still show up and slay!

Adjust your lens.

Trust your gut.

Trust your team!

Ask the important questions.

But at the end of the day, your body’s functions do NOT determine your self-worth! The sooner we all get with that reality the sooner we will be happy in this life!

Happy Birth & Parenting!

~Elizabeth Luke

Baby’s First Bath, Level Up With These Tips

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Baby’s First Bath, Level Up With These Tips

These tips for a baby’s first bath will help ease your fears and make the first bath (and many more) run smoothly. At The Jax Baby Company, we help bathe lots of slippery newborns, wiggly infants, and rambunctious toddlers. We have bathtime down to a science!

When parents talk about baby’s very first bath, most of them are referring to a bath with water and some soap. That’s what we will cover here today. However, until your baby’s umbilical cord stump falls off you’ll want to skip a traditional bath with water and soap and give a “sponge bath”. Wiping your baby down with a warm wet washcloth is sufficient and keeps the umbilical area dry. Pay close attention to the neck creases where milk drips and collects, the creases of the legs, and diaper area.

Tip #1: Follow the 3 T’s of Bathtime

When we teach parents about babies we always talk about safety! Follow the 3 T’s of tub time What are the 3 T’s you ask?

  • Temperature: A newborn can chill easily. You want the room your bathing your baby in to be free from drafts and not too cold. You don’t need to turn on the heat in Florida unless it’s true winter, but you can turn off any fan you may have running in the room. Likewise, make sure the water temperature isn’t too hot or too cold. Baby bear like’s it “just right”. To prevent scalding, before your baby is born adjust the thermostat on your water heater to below 120 F (49 C). Always test the water temperature with your hand or thermometer if needed before bathing your baby. Aim to have the bath water around 100 F (38 C).
  • Touch: Keep one hand on your baby at all times. Babies slip and slump easily in the water. It only takes a moment for an accident to happen. If you can’t reach “it” while keeping a hand on your baby you don’t really need it.
  • Time: Baby’s first bath shouldn’t take long, in fact, all baths should be kept to under 10 minutes. Newborns have very short sleep/wake cycles. So, although your baby may seem very content, at a moments notice your baby can be sleepy again and things can escalate quickly.

Tip #2: Gather Your Supplies First

You want everything you’ll need for the bath, from start to finish, within an arms reach. Go ahead and rip those safety seals off before you ever starting. Remember touch of the 3 T’s of bathtime? One hand on your baby at all times, always! You’ll want all the rest of the supplies you’ll need right where you’ll dress and groom your baby. What supplies do you need? Well, that depends on what you’re tackling, remember to keep it under 10 minutes total.

Bath Time:

  • tub, bather, or bloom sink insert
  • a cup to pour the water on the baby
  • baby wash/soap of choice
  • warm water (100 F (38 C)
  • 2 washcloths
  • towel

Grooming & Dressing:

  • diaper
  • clothing
  • socks
  • cotton ball for drying ears
  • lotion
  • brush
  • nail clippers

Tip #3: Take a Deep Breath & Keep Calm

Most newborn babies hate being naked, cool, and wet. If you find that your baby starts to cry keep calm! Don’t panic! If she takes a pacifier you can use one that doesn’t allow water to get inside of it, like this. Most of the time baby’s first bath involves some tears. You can stop where you are, wrap it up, move on to our bonus tip and call it a success. OR you can push through, finish the bath, move onto the bonus tip, and call it a success! Either way keep calm because your baby can sense when you’re feeling sad, down, or panicked. This is new to you too, it gets easier I promise!

We’re wrapping up tips for baby’s first bath with a bonus tip!

Bonus Tip: Follow Up with Skin to Skin Bonding

Babies love being skin to skin with their parents! They love everything about it! The warmth, the closeness, and the hormones it helps mom release. They love your smell and the gentleness. They love the sound your heart makes as they lay against your chest and the humming of your voice. If your baby cried during bathtime this is a sure way to make it up to him (and you). Fresh babies are the best! So this bonus tip is just as much for you as it is for them. These moments are the “stop and smell the roses” of life. Take them every chance you get!

How do you do skin to skin?

You’ll want your baby to be in only a diaper and you’ll want to remove your shirt and bra if you’re wearing one. Lay your baby on your bare chest facing you on his/her belly. Place a blanket over the two of you leaving only your baby’s head exposed. Snuggle that muggle! Smell him, caress him, touch his soft, fine hair. Let him hold your finger in his tiny precious hand. Enjoy this time, uninterrupted for as long as you’d like.

I hope you find these tips for baby’s first bath as helpful as the families we work with. If you’d love help with your baby’s first bath contact us and one of our baby whispers will come and help you through bathtime, instilling confidence along the way!

To recap just remember:

  • 3 T’s of Bathtime: temperature, touch, time (10),
  • Gather all of your supplies first
  • Follow up with skin to skin

Be sure to check out our upcoming blog: When and How to Wash a Newborn for step by step instructions!

Happy Birth & Parenting,

Elizabeth Luke

SPECIAL ANNOUNCEMENT: The Jacksonville Baby Company

SPECIAL ANNOUNCEMENT JAX FL

SPECIAL ANNOUNCEMENT: The Jacksonville Baby Company

We’re often the first people many couples share their special announcement with! Our clients excitedly share names they’ve come up with for their babies and many call us first when they’ve given birth! Now it’s our turn! [insert happy dance] We have a very special announcement to share with all of you!

Do you remember when you would think about what you wanted to be when you grew up? Remember the feeling you had when you discovered what you wanted to do with your life or even just the next chunk of time in your life?

First Coast Doulas is now The Jacksonville Baby Company!

We’ve totally outgrown our name and what it says about what we do! We’ve been fine-tuning our skills and perfecting what we’re already well-known for! Please help us say goodbye to First Coast Doulas and hello to The Jax Baby Company!

Our Team is Growing

Elizabeth, the owner of The Jacksonville Baby Company or Jax Baby Co. for short knows it will take a team to fulfill our mission! Each person on our team is hand-selected, thoroughly screened, and carefully trained to meet the needs of The Jacksonville Baby Company, our clients, and our community!

Preparing for Birth, Baby, and Parenting

We help you prepare with research-based, no bullshit education! Education for vaginal, cesarean, medicated, and unmedicated birth. So that you can shoot for the sky and land among the stars no matter what unfolds during the birth process!

Birth Is Just One Day

One very meaningful day! While we help you prepare for a satisfying experience no matter how your baby makes his, her, or their grand entrance we also understand the value and importance of preparing for the period of time after birth! The postpartum time period.

Postpartum is often used interchangeably with depression, “I had postpartum after my first was born.” A more positive postpartum experience begins with preparation!

Postpartum Recovery and Newborn Care

This is where families are often impacted the most for the longest period of time. So many things are happening at once: healing physically, changes emotionally, bonding, learning, adapting and adjusting just to name some of it. We’re experts in postpartum recovery and newborn care. Helping you and your family with emotional support, meals and snacks, showers and baths, sibling care, SLEEP, breastfeeding, bottle-feeding, and light housework!

Scheduled Cesarean Support

We recognize that birth can be beautiful, scary, and empowering no matter how it happens, but we see a HUGE need for cesarean support in the Jacksonville area! As respected perinatal and postnatal support professionals in the Jacksonville area, our team is welcomed with open arms into many of the local hospital’s operating rooms. Because of the nature of cesarean birth (a major surgery), the environment is very controlled and must be for the safety of mom and baby, therefore not everyone gets this privilege. We are honored to support families welcoming babies via cesarean birth!

Jacksonville’s Safest Provider of Placenta Encapsulation Services

Placenta encapsulation is much more black and white than birth! There actually is a “safest” way to provide this service.  The Jacksonville Baby Company is the only provider in Northeast Florida and Southeast Georgia who offers the No-Doubt Guarantee to every client every time! In an unregulated industry where very limited studies have been done, safest practices, highest standards, training and certification is most certainly of importance.

Sleep Shaping and Sleep Training

Humans need a minimum amount of sleep to function and sleep is a key component to good physical, mental, and emotional heath. That is where The Jax Baby Co. comes in. No matter your babies age or your parenting style the Jax Baby Co. has ways to help you and your family get more restful sleep.

With the special announcement of The Jacksonville Baby Company, we want you to know that we provide the same amazing support we’re well-known for with a completely updated name and refreshing look and feel!

Check back here for some fun blogs to help you get to know our team better! We’ll also be covering some completely new and informative parenting and birth topics! Watch your inbox and our social media pages for engagement posts and dates and places around town for playdates and workshops!

So there’s the “skinny” on what’s happening here! The Jacksonville Baby Company provides exceptional support and inclusive care for families with babies in the Greater Jacksonville, FL area!

GIVEAWAY TIME >>>>>>To register to win a $25 Starbucks Gift Card take these 5 steps:

1. Leave us a comment letting us know what you think about the new business name, The Jacksonville Baby Company!

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3. Tag a friend!

4. Hit the share button on the post!

5. Comment on Facebook letting us know!

That’s it! When we hit 3k likes we will do a random drawing and select a winner! Anyone in the US can enter you don’t have to be local to Jacksonville, FL to win! We have another GIVEAWAY coming soon on Instagram!! Follow for follow on IG and get the deets there!

For a warm welcome home contact us today! We book up at least a month in advance so booking early is best!

Happy Birth & Parenting!

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