What We Learned Pulling Out!
After birthing three children and adopting a fourth my husband and I talked about the risks of certain birth control. I had been on hormonal birth control a better part of 16 years. Together we decided it would be best for me to stop taking hormonal birth control. Our pursuit to find a non invasive, non hormonal form of birth control began.
I feel it’s important to state that we both trust each other, do not have other sexual partners, and we have been this way for the length of our relationship of more than a decade. We’re both consenting adults and know the risks involved.
We decided on a combination of birth control options.
Condoms, the pulling out method, and Vaginal Contraceptive Films (VCF) were the finalists. Which we used depended on a number of different things such as; my fertility, our desire and level of self control at the time, whether either of us have consumed any alcohol (which we rarely do) and how long it has been since the last time he ejaculated.
For those interested in the effectiveness of the pulling out method (The withdraw method) and others mentioned here, read the information below that I have included for you. There are also links for you to read about risks and benefits to each method mentioned so you can decide for yourself if any or none of these would work best for you and your partner!
Back to what we learned.
Practice may be required! Those damn films are sticky and tend to stick to your finger when you attempt to insert it “quickly/swiftly”, heck slowly is a challenge too. Why didn’t I buy the foam?!
For the better part of my entire life I’ve worked on patience and self control, they aren’t easy for me. My husband has the self control and patience of a saint, while I on the other hand am about as patient as a kid on Christmas morning. I want that package and I want it now! A couple songs lyrics play in my mind, “Give it to me baby, uh huh, uh huh”, “You, shook me all night long”! Waiting 15 minutes for those films to dissolve and do their magic can seem like forever when you are ready to do the damn thing!
Good things come to those who wait! They sure do!
The foreplay has gotten better! We’ve learned each others bodies all over again. Our communication in the bedroom has improved and with that came a better understanding of each others likes and dislikes. Oh, and locking the door and saying screw it to the rest of the world has helped us be more positive in our lives over all!
We learned that taking this time for each other is a damn good thing for our health and our relationship! We found ourselves again!!! Luckily we realize that what we were missing out on over the last decade between raising kids, caring for two relatives who have since passed away, working night shift, and being on call essentially 24/7 running a business was something very special!
In our search for non-hormonal birth control we found so much more!
When used alone, the pulling out method is about 73% effective at preventing pregnancy.
Pulling out does not protect against sexually transmitted diseases or infections.
Of every 100 women whose partners are pulling out 4 will become pregnant each year if they always do it correctly. Of every 100 women whose partners use the pulling out method, 27 will become pregnant each year if they don’t always do it correctly.
Pre-ejaculation, or pre-cum is believed to contain enough sperm to result in pregnancy. If men urinate between ejaculations and have sex again it is thought to clear the urethra of sperm and lessen the amount of sperm in the pre-cum.
VCF, when used alone is not very effective. It’s between 70-80% effective, but when used with condoms we are talking 97% effective at preventing pregnancy.
Condoms alone are about 85% effective.
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