4 Things I Wish I Knew Before I Had Kids

Things I Wish I Knew Before I Had Kids | Childbirth Classes Jax, FL

4 Things I Wish I Knew Before I Had Kids

I can’t tell you how many times over the last two decades that I’ve spent raising children and in my career that I’ve thought and heard: there are some things I wish I knew before I had kids. Definitely way more than I ever thought or dreamed I would.  I think most of us would agree that with experience comes at least some knowledge and insight. A mechanic knows vehicles and a doctor knows the ins and outs of medicine! As a seasoned parent, doula, and caregiver I’m often asked about my experience: what I would do in a specific situation and if I have any advice for others. So, I’ve compile a list of 4 things I wish I knew before I had kids to share with all of you and they aren’t about breast or bottlefeeding, spanking, spoiling, or sleep training.

These are things all parents and families can benefit from!

1. It’s imperative that you do you for them!

Don’t underestimate what me time can do for your entire family! Sure, in the beginning it’s tough. The first six weeks is about survival. But after you begin getting back into the swing of things at your own speed, making time for you is imperative!

Parents make sacrifices all the time for their kids and each other, but you don’t have to sacrifice all the time. You don’t have to have an answer for everything or extra set of arms to get it all done, although you give it a good go! We’re simply not designed to multitask and be great at all things. So while balancing, juggling, and living life do not forget to take care of you! Teach your children to love themselves and take time for self-care! A healthy mind, body, and spirit benefits everyone!

2. Your children are modeling for you what unconditional love is!

It’s true, let’s face it! Your finicky three year old doesn’t care if you feed them organic or fast food, they will just pick and poke anyway. Said toddler also give no cares if you leave the house to get the darn french fries without your bra or wearing two different shoes by mistake, they just want the fry fries and love you for getting them. Your little monkey will happily climb you like a tree to breastfeed while you’re squeezing in a 5 minute poop break or share the last few licks of their slobbery lollipop with you! Our children happily love us just the same!

We can learn a lot from our tiny humans. They expect nothing, they have no ideas about how it “should” be, what is “best”, and they simply love and adore us!

3. You can say no without apology or reason!

Not only can you say no because you can’t, but you can also say no when you don’t want to. You don’t have to come up with an excuse and you don’t have to have a reason. Your friend wants to drop by this evening on the way home to go through swatches for her new sofa and paint colors for her living room. You’ve had a long work week and you’re feeling tapped out. You just wanted to sit around in your underwear, have a glass of wine and watch an episode on Netflix. It’s ok to just say no. You don’t have to say why or apologize. You don’t have to feel be sorry, you can just say no, it’s healthy to say no (and yes for that matter) sometimes See #1 again!

This means strangers, friends, even family. It’s hard sometimes, but it’s healthy. This leaves more time and emotional and physical energy to say yes when you want to!

Hint: The more you practice saying no the easier it gets, the better it feels!

4. It’s normal and healthy to make mistakes.

As a mom with three adult children and one whose ten years behind her siblings I often reflect on our journey as a family. I also think back on the choices we made as parents. Boy have we made some mistakes along the way. You will too! We’ve laughed, cried, yelled, and fell upon silence. You will too… and it’s okay! In fact it’s more than ok, it’s completely “normal”. Mistakes means we’re human, mistakes let our children see we are not perfect and that is good!

Before you know it, believe it or not they will be flying the nest! Acknowledging our own mistakes, apologize, and working to learn from our mistakes will help our children not only understand that mistakes are okay, but it also models for them healthy life lessons and strategies they will take with them.

There are a few more things I wish I knew before having kids, but there’s something so freeing about not knowing all things and just winging it! I hope you find these 4 things helpful. What things do you wish you knew before having kids? We want to hear from you in the comment section below!

Here’s to happy birth and parenting!

~Elizabeth Luke

Private Childbirth Classes in Jax, FL

private childbirth classes | Jax FL | Best Birth Classes in Jax., FL

Private Childbirth Classes in Jax, FL

Considering private childbirth classes means you’re a dynamic individual!

When preparing for birth it’s much easier to know what you want when you are aware of what is available to you. You need an educator that is as forward-thinking as you are. Someone that can lay out all of your options, knows the ins and outs of the local birthing facilities, and presents the information in a way that allows you to explore what is best for you and your family. That’s exactly what you get with The Jax Baby Company!

When attending The Confident Birth & Baby Class with The Jax Baby Company you can expect to learn about:

  • pregnancy & common ailments
  • the stages of labor & birth
  • comfort measures
  • your rights
  • how to navigate labor in a way that works best for you in the moment
  • the physiological process of birth

You’ll also learn:

  • how to work with your body to feel more comfortable
  • positions that are helpful during birth
  • when those positions are most helpful

What’s better than that?

How about also learning tips and techniques from someone who works intimately with families giving birth and during the first six weeks after birth. Information to prepare you for what you can expect based on your birth choices, and how to care for your postpartum body, are also included.

The private classes we teach are the perfect place to explore how you will define a satisfying birth experience.

We provide you with information on un-medicated vaginal birth, various options for pharmacological pain relief including epidurals, and what to expect if you choose or require a cesarean. All the information is presented in an unbiased and judgement free manner. Regardless of your desires for your birth experience, gathering knowledge of the most common options and variations will help you feel prepared should your plans change along the way.

All of this in the comfort, privacy, and safety of your very own home.

Overall, these amazing classes will help you find what works best for you. You will complete your class feeling prepared with tools to navigate the unpredictability and intensity of your baby’s birth. Using research based information and proven techniques, you can expect to feel safer and less fearful of the birthing process. Are you ready to meet your baby?

Authored by Lacey Park agency owner at Chinook City Doulas, serving families in Calgary!

Delayed Cord Clamping

delayed cord clamping | Birth Classes Jax, FL

Delayed Cord Clamping

Delayed cord clamping is a term that you’ve likely heard of or read about if you are expecting a baby in the near future. At birth babies are attached to their placenta via their umbilical cord. The placenta is attached to the wall of the woman’s uterus. Once the baby is born the cord is clamped. This stops the flow of nutrient rich blood containing iron from the placenta to the baby. When the baby’s cord is clamped matters.

Some of you just thought, “So what’s the research say?” We got you!

The World Health Organization (WHO) says that, “delayed cord clamping (performed approximately 1–3 min after birth) is recommended for all births, while initiating simultaneous essential neonatal care.” Furthermore they say that early cord clamping (less than one minute after birth) is not recommended for pre-term and full-term babies unless they the baby needs to be moved immediately for resuscitation.

I especially love that they also address the fact that keeping the cord unclamped for a 1-3 minute period also helps to prevent and treat postpartum hemorrhage in the birthing woman.

Postpartum hemorrhage (PPH) is defined as a rapid loss of blood after giving birth. PPH can happen anytime immediately following birth up to 6 weeks postpartum. The most common causes of PPH are poor contractions of the uterus, separation of the placenta or pieces of retained placenta, or a tear in the uterus. Some women are at higher risk for PPH. Women birthing more than a singleton baby, are of advanced maternal age, who are birthing via cesarean, and those who have had labor augmented with medication are at greater risk. So, it may be important to you to note that delayed cord clamping can help prevent and treat PPH.

Even more exciting, yesterday the American Congress of Obstetricians andGynecologists (ACOG) released their latest statement and the results show the following benefits:

In preterm infants:

  • improved transitional circulation
  • better establishment of red blood cell volume
  • less need for blood transfusion
  • reduces the incidence of brain hemorrhage
  • reduces the risk of necrotizing enterocolitis (intestinal disease)

For term infants

  • increases hemoglobin levels at birth
  • improves iron stores for several months
  • helps prevent iron deficiency during the first year of life

ACOG also states that in most cases, delayed cord clamping doesn’t interfere with the immediate care the infant receives including the first breath and immediate skin-to-skin contact. Delayed cord clamping alone does not affect whether or not a woman can have her placenta encapsulated. Majority of women who are planning for or who need to have a cesarean birth can also consider delayed cord clamping.

So, if you’re in the midst of creating a birth plan or preference sheet, delayed cord clamping just might be something you want to include. In addition to taking a great childbirth education class be sure to talk with your provider if you have questions and make your wishes known to your support person(s) and your entire birth team.

Fun tid-bit of the day; delayed cord clamping is also known as optimal cord clamping! From us to you, happy birth and parenting! ~Elizabeth Luke

Google Is Not Your Doula

Google Is Not Your Doula

google is not your doula best doulas in jax

Google is not your doula! Let’s face it, the internet, a.k.a. the World Wide Web, a.k.a the information super highway is exploding with information, lots of information. Good, bad, and some just downright nasty information! D.I.Y. videos, recipes, home remedies, studies, articles, and diagrams, it’s all spewing all over the place.

Every topic imaginable and even the unimaginable can be found online.

Most of us have a love-hate relationship with the internet. At time there seems to be too much information to sort through online. Understanding what is legit and what is bunk can be daunting, especially when you are pregnant!

Commonly googled questions pregnant moms ask include:

  • I am spotting, could I be having a miscarriage?
  • I am worried about x, y, and z, is this normal? I feel like something is wrong.
  • I feel so tired, why?
  • Will my body know what to do in labor?
  • How will I know when I’m in labor?
  • Which vaccines are best for my baby?
  • Should I circumcise or leave my baby intact?
  • Is massage o.k. during pregnancy?
  • When should I get an epidural?
  • Can I breastfeed with small breasts?

And the list goes on and on!

As a newly pregnant mom, be it the first time or third, there’s a really good chance you’ll google at least one question. Parents can be left feeling unsure and even scared after they google.

Everyone can google, we know that, but Google is not your doula!

One benefit of hiring a First Coast Doulas is not having to sift through the sea of craziness that is the internet!! You’ll love being able to email, text, or call us with questions or concerns anytime day or night 24/7, from the moment you hire us. Your concerns about your pregnancy are our priority and we support, comfort, and guide you through this time in life because when you choose us as your compassionate guides you are getting a Sherpa, a birth Sherpa if you will.

“Asking your husband to be your sole guide through labor is like asking him to lead the way on a climb of Mt Everest. He may be smart and trustworthy, you may love him, but in the Himalayas you’d both be a lot better off with a Sherpa!” – Pam England

A couple of our clients have actually said, “Google is not your doula”, you should blog about that! We love this and decided to share so others are in the know!

First Coast Doulas doesn’t replace your internet. That’s obvious, but we’re in the know and help you make sense of the info overload. We also don’t take over your partner’s role. We support the both of you! We listen to your concerns and help you sort through how you feel about it all.

We do all of this, wait for it… without an agenda!

What does “without an agenda” mean you ask? In simply means judgment -free, we stand for what you stand for along your journey. We do this confidently and with our whole heart because we know this isn’t about us, it’s about you!

Let me dig a little deeper into this.

Many women think that doulas are for those who want a natural birth, that they don’t like vaccines or Pitocin, that they are hippies who love homebirths and avoid obstetricians and hospitals like the plague.

Well, that’s a misconception with First Coast Doulas it’s a misconception! We come to you agenda and judgment-free, guaranteed. It’s one of the reasons we are proud to say that we are the best doulas in Jacksonville, Florida. We say it un-apologetically and with all confidence because we live up to our word.

We don’t force unsolicited advice or studies on you; you want information and a natural birth, great we can help you with that. Do you give no fucks about studies? Great, we support you too!

We can support your without needing you to explain anything, ever!

First Coast Doulas can, if you’d like help you look at risks versus benefits for everything under the sun; homebirth versus hospital, un-medicated versus medicated, moving around in labor, versus just lying still.

In the end though, no matter what you decide you will be supported, not tolerated. You will feel validated, not shunned, because that’s how we roll!

Simplify your life during this pregnancy, hire First Coast Doulas. Remember Google is not your doula and First Coast Doulas supports you!

Promises, Promises in Pregnancy and Birth Support

Promises, Promises

Promises Jacksonville Florida

 

Unlike the lyrics from the 1983 song, Promises, Promises says:

You made me promises promises
Knowing I’d believe
Promises promises
You knew you’d never keep

 

You can absolutely can count on First Coast Doulas to keep their promise to you because we do not make unrealistic promises or guarantees, or feed you false hopes, ever!

 

If you’re interviewing doulas, inquiring about support, or see them post in a group on facebook promising things like:

“I can make sure you get that VBAC!”

“If you want an unmedicated birth, we will make that happen.”

“A cesarean isn’t in the cards for you. I know a great provider who will approve your VBAC”

“I can help you turn your OP (malpositioned) baby.”

“There’s lots we can do to “turn” your baby.”

“I’ll make sure you stay off monitors and walk the halls in labor.”

“If you go to Dr. Miracle for your care you’ll get exactly what you want!”

or anything of the like, please know that these promises give people the wrong idea about what doula support is and ultimately what professional doulas do.

 

It’s the truth! Like it or not!

If you are seeking the support of a professional doula, one who knows and stays within a doulas scope of practice and has ethical doula boundaries and you find a doula making these claims?

Run, Forest run!

Keep scrolling!

Smile, nod, and move right on!

All of these ideas will work!

However, if these things sound great to you, I ask you to take a long, hard look at why they sound promising to you?

What is it you are searching for?

Can you make absolute sure you can follow through on those promise to yourself? What about if an emergency arose or you change your mind in the moment?

NO! 

Then I would heavily suggest not hiring someone who is making these unrealistic promises?

There is no glory in false claims, honesty really is the very best policy!

 

Noone can guarantee you a birth outcome aside from guaranteeing that your baby will be born;

full term, before 42 weeks, vaginal, home birth, safe birth, water birth, fast birth, long birth, unmedicated birth, cesarean birth: yes even cesareans can’t be promised, the mom who was scheduled for her cesarean who went into labor early and by the time she realized it was true labor she was pushing a baby out in the hallway of the hospital can attest to that one!

Shoot, even experienced providers can’t promise you these things. They know the things that can change the tides, and are prepared to see you through those changes with the medical support they provide!

One thing that sets First Coast Doulas apart is this;

We know our scope of practice and understand what it means to be a professional doula. In short our role is to support you.

Not to tell you what is best, but to help you work through things so you can figure out what is best for you.

Not to save you, but to support you through whatever comes your way.

Not to protect you, but to help you feel safer.

Not advocate for you, but to help you feel comfortable enough to have your own voice, even if that means you don’t use it.

And, most certainly not to lie to you! That is not a doula’s role, ever!

We support you in your choices, through whatever comes your way, by addressing your questions with honest answers, not false hope!

We can help you work towards your goals for your birth. We’ll listen and help you map out a plan!

We help you prepare in a way that works best for you! We provide comfort to you and your partner in pregnancy, labor, birth, and even into the postpartum year!

We can support you by helping you have valuable conversations with your provider when things arise that are out of our scope of practice.

We can help you create a memorable experience for your birth, one where you feel supported, period!

We won’t sell anyone an unrealistic dream or promises!

 

A common question we get asked is, “Can you help me get my baby in a better position for labor?”

There is no guarantee that anything you do or anyone else does will “turn” baby. Not your doula, not your provider, not a chiropractor!

Could your provider or chiropractor help your baby turn, yes! There are techniques they can use to help turn your baby!

Will they work?

They may or they may not.

Will baby stay turned?

They may or they may not!

Can First Coast Doulas help turn your baby?

The answer to that is yes and no.

First Coast Doulas are knowledgeable and experienced in gentle exercises that can help make you more comfortable and that may help create space for your baby within the uterus, but we make no promises that it will happen, because we can’t, noone can!

We are skilled in helping you cope if positioning causes issues for you!

 

At First Coast Doulas it is against our personal and professional beliefs to guarantee outcomes outside of absolute, unbiased support and compassionate care.

What you see is what you get, you are not fed false hopes, dreams, or unrealistic promises, promises!

 

Phoenix Family Birth, this agency understands the promise we make as professional doulas!

 

Going to Work Just for the Fun of It, Part 2

Going to Work Just for the Fun of It, Part 2

If you missed Part 1 you will want to catch up quickly!

Going to Work

 

The 12 hour language used in many contracts simply states that included in the birth doula package, for X amount of money you get 12 hours of face to face support, and beyond that the client pays X amount per hour!

Clients read and understand the terms of the contract, the doula understands her obligations, the client knows what’s expected of them, what they will receive, and that is that. Two or three adults enter into a legally binding contract.

No one knows how long labor will last. Even if you’ve had fast labors before, that is no guarantee the next will be the same. With the 12 hour language in the contract clients will receive amazing support and the doula(s) will be compensated fairly in the event the labor is long. If the labor is short the clients still receive the support outlined in the contract and the doula is compensated fairly!

It’s black and white, it’s plain and simple. Clients get this concept!

They like knowing they’re paying for amazing support, they like knowing their life experience wasn’t a burden on someone else, and when they have their next baby First Coast Doulas will still be around! They like that we provide continuity of care right into the postpartum year! They love that there was an even exchange of support and energy for payment!

It’s empowering!

It’s empowering for the doulas, it’s empowering for the clients!

Imagine this; you live life on call never knowing when you’ll have to leave at a moment’s notice to support a laboring woman for six to forty-eight hours.  You may be in the middle of your daughter’s dance recital, your friend’s husband funeral, or just falling asleep after two days of virtually no sleep thanks to an ear infection in your infant and soothing a fussy, teething toddler of your own. Imagine not knowing if you’d earn $400 or $0?

Imagine you’re supporting a client at a birth, it’s reaching hour 18 and you are dead tired. You can’t keep going, but your client needs you there. It’s a horrible feeling. She goes on to need about 9 more hours of support. Now imagine paying out of your own pocket to pay a back-up doula to come in and provide the remaining hours of support. Yes, I mean your own pocket, or better yet, how about your spouse’s pocket!

Imagine how your spouse or partner would feel about that? Would your children or fur baby be o.k. with this lifestyle choice? Certainly not!

On a global level we need doulas to keep at creating sustainable businesses!

On a global level we need doulas to keep at it!

Globally, if doulas are to help improve pregnancy, birth, and postpartum we must create longevity within the doula profession.

Profession: a type of job that requires special education, training, or skill.

Job: the work that a person does regularly in order to earn money.

The 12 hour language is being used by doulas more and more since ProDoula, a certification agency for the modern doula was started. This language is helping to revolutionize the way  doulas everywhere view the work that they do.

The 12 hour language is only one part of creating stability for the doula so she can make her heart’s work into a long career. The business side of doula work is necessary to create stability, longevity and ultimately to leave behind a legacy! People aren’t working just for the fun of it; they want to leave something behind when they leave this Earth!

The 12 hour language is a SINGLE line in our contract, but it speaks volumes about the work we are doing as professionals!

Being paid a thriving wage allows a doula to be present for her own family when she’s with them, not worrying about how she’ll put food on the table or how she’ll be able to pay a  great nanny to care for her kids when she is called away at a moment’s notice to support her clients in labor.

It allows her to buy herself clothes she would otherwise not be able to afford. It allows her to leave a relationship that’s no longer healthy. It allows her to send a cleaning lady into her elderly father’s home who lives five states away when she can’t get there to help the person who raised her alone!

It allows her to send her child to a school where he/she can receive a fantastic education! It allows her to give her children the very best while she is away!

It allows her self-care when she needs it!

She can get a chiropractic adjustment after a long birth, or pay a therapist regularly to process the stillbirths she supports her clients through! Whether it’s bubble baths, a glass of wine and alone time, monthly massages, or having her hair and nails done on the regular, self-care is important! It’s beneficial, and it’s necessary for longevity!

It allows her to arrive to her clients knowing her kids are taken care of, her car is in good working order, and her house is functioning like a well-oiled machine while she’s away supporting other families.

I say all of that to say this; the 12 hour language allows the doula to come to her clients free from baggage, worry, and frustration. It allows her heart, her hands, and her mind to be solely for the purpose of supporting her clients while she is with them!

Smart people know if you want to make the biggest impact possible in the world it will likely take funds to do so, most things cost! Being business savvy is not greedy, it’s smart!

It allows me and many other doulas, who otherwise would not be able to, to focus on creating stability, longevity, and leaving behind a legacy!

The 12 hour language is a win-win for all! Oh wait, and then there are the ones who have a problem with it!

You know who has a problem with this concept? People who women don’t feel women deserve to be paid appropriately for the work they do. People who are for oppression!

Sorry not sorry!

There are actual people in this world who feel it’s o.k. for women to go to work just for the fun of it. That their actual work is not work at all, it’s all fun and games! They believe it’s o.k. for women to be stuck in abusive relationships, and feel it’s o.k. for women to be away from their families for an unknown amount of time with the possibility she come back empty-handed in terms of earnings. Even worse there are people who think it’s o.k. for the doula to pay out of her own pocket to witness the miracle and extremely hard work of birth!

Bottom line, doulas deserve to be paid for the valuable work that they do, every time, no ifs, ands, or buts about it.

The 12 hour language supports the doula while they support their clients! Going to work just for the fun of it creates burn out, not sustainability!

Going to Work Just for the Fun of It, Part 1

Going to Work Just for the Fun of It, Part 1

Going to Work Just For The Fun of It

Doesn’t the thought of going to work just for the fun of it sound amazing!?!

Do you love gambling with your house, car, family, or your future? Think about it, the possibility of getting paid well or receiving no paycheck at all since you love your job, everyday is a new gamble! You win some you lose some!

Sound like a great business model right? How do you think it will help you create sustainability?

How cool would it be if you could call the electric company and say, “I love my job so much that I couldn’t set a wage for myself to ensure I’d be able to pay my bills this month, maybe next week I’ll have it, I’m sorry”, and all was right in the world!

Yeah, not happening!

This blog may seem…weird or out of place! It’s not, I promise. It’s important we blog, talk, and discuss this issue because it’s a real problem and we need to keep it at the forefront if we want to see change happen in our lifetime. If we want to leave birth work better than we found it we have to talk about the awkward right along with the comforting matters!

Please, stay with me, read Part 2.

It offer perspective and tell you exactly what that 12 hour language is all about in our contract!

Have you had a job that you were excited about going today, everyday?!? Remember the saying, “Do something you love and you’ll never work a day in your life”? Well that’s a load of garbage. Work is work, whether you love it or not, it’s still challenging at some point and majority of people want to be paid for the time they are working!

Without stability you can’t have longevity!  The 12 hour language that’s being used more and more in doula business contracts helps a person create stability for their business. Without stability this profession would suffer, great doulas burn out. Do we really want something as intimate and as life changing as birth to suffer? I know I surely don’t!

Women who are working deserve not only to be paid a wage that helps them survive, but also helps their families survive, and families all over the world thrive, their own family included!

Why should doulas be excluded from this? They shouldn’t!

 

 

Stay tuned for Part 2 of Going to Work Just for the Fun of It

Dear Parents on Your Mobile Devices

Dear Parents on Your Mobile Devices

Dear Parents on Your Mobile Devices Jacksonville, FL

 

Dear parents on your mobile devices, I see you at the park, sitting at the picnic table on your laptop while your children entertain one another. They toss about the mulch, and dig with their sticks in the dirt.

Their hands are small, but their imaginations are as big as their hearts!

We all know you see your three year old climbing those steps, all alone, while you peer over the top of the screen and watch another child’s mother runs over to help your son up. You sit engrossed on your laptop.

We all physically see you, but I see you practice self-restraint so your children get to interact with other people in the world in which they live, together. I see you resisting the urge to tell her you would prefer she let your son climb the steps without being lifted up so he get the exercise that his body needs. His motor skills need this time at the park!

I notice that you ever so lovingly look over at your children and smile as they race each other down the slide and push each other on the swings.

As you type intently word after word your children yell for you to watch them! You cheer them on and then focus back on your work. Work to some that seems to be more important than your children.

Let that not worry or distract you, for you are an incredible parent!

Oh I see it, I do!

I see the hard work and motivation in your eyes and more importantly, I can feel the love in your heart from across this playground!

I see siblings engaging with other children and trusting one another.

I see two happy children who are using the outside world as their classroom; they are learning to be independent while being closely supervised by their parent, someone who loves them more than anyone or anything else in this world.

That’s powerful!

Dear parents on your mobile devices I hear you talking over your kids! I hear you catching up with a dear friend whom you haven’t seen or talked to in nearly three months. I see you purposing to make time for your friend, someone who you’ve shared good times and bad with. Someone who has been a solid support for you and you for them.

I hear the laughter from the other side of the bench and smile a little knowing your friendship means a great deal to you!

That’s beautiful!

Your children will grow up with you modeling for them what positive friendships/relationships look like. They will know relationships are valuable, unique, and important.

Dear parents on your mobile devices, I see you taking calls on your cell phone while your kids tug at your shirt tail and beg you for a snack. I see you feeding your kids those goldfish and juice boxes while you talk on your phone!

I see a parent scheduling an appointment with their daughter’s pediatrician and scheduling a parent teacher conference. I see you juggling being a fun, in the moment, and responsibility.

I see the McDonald’s wrapper fall from your bag to the ground. I see someone who cared less about breakfast and more about making time for their kids to get that important park trip they have been asking about!

You promised you’d take them and you’re a person of your word!

You are a promise keeper!

Your kids will grow up respecting you for your honesty and always being person of your word, this is harder to come by than you might think!

Dear parents on your mobile devices, I hear your phone go off and signal you to check your text messages. I watch as your youngest child throws sand at your oldest and then your oldest hides alone under the slide. I comfort him while you texted back and forth giggling. To some onlookers I am a stranger and you just don’t care about your kid, but to you I am another parent who is just checking on him and showing normal important human compassion.

Thank you for not judging me or making assumptions about me. To me you seem confident, but wise and watchful over your children.

I see you, I notice. I see a spouse whose other half is working overtime so that he/she can be at home with their children. I see a couple working hard to make a life for their children and for their family.

I see small sacrifices for a better future together.

Dear parents on your mobile devices I see you looking around and wondering if others are watching you and judging you for not being up running around with your children. I see the gears spinning and the expectations you put on yourself. I can see your confidence fade for moments here and there as you second guess yourself.

I see this because I do this too! Yep!

Then I remember I am a parent doing the very best I can at this very moment and that is o.k. I know you know this too. It’s a nice reminder though when another parent says something encouraging to you!

I want to be your encouragement today!

I want you to be someone’s encouragement tomorrow!

Being a parent is humbling and has taught me a whole lot! One very important things I have learned is that there is no right or wrong way to raise your children, just one way or another. It’s also taught me we never know it all.

Being a Doula has allowed me to see parenting in an entirely new light, be more encouraging than I ever imagined possible, and let go of many expectations.

When we let go of expectations we allow ourselves more freedom and happiness! we are more mindful and in the moment.

Dear Parents on their mobile devices please know I see you, I admire you, I respect you, and I do not judge you! Parent with confidence with all the love in your heart and know THAT is enough!

You are enough!

I challenge you to encourage another parent today! With words, with your actions, or simply by sharing this blog with someone who may need to read these words today!

What Kind of Person Eats Their Placenta?

What Kind of Person Eats Their Placenta?

What Kind of Person Eats Their Placenta

What kind of person eats their placenta? That is sometimes what people say or think when they hear the term placenta encapsulation. They want to know why in the world someone would ever consume, ingest, or “eat” their placenta.

I think it’s important first to state that those who chose placenta encapsulation are not consuming a raw meat product. They aren’t going at this hunk of meat in an apocalyptic, zombie fashion. Nope, no way! Please erase that picture from your mind, take a deep breath, and let go of any assumptions you might have. They are consuming a finished product, a nice capsule that has been carefully prepared for them in their own kitchen by professionals. The capsules they consume are a unique and natural product that they produced for their baby and for themselves.

This practice has been around for millions of years, but has recently gained attention.

Those choosing First Coast Doulas for their placenta encapsulation experience are choosing the safest encapsulation available on the First Coast. Without any doubts, our clients gain confidence and support along the way.

So let’s get to it! What kind of person eats their placenta?

We have the answer for you here!

The everyday woman chooses this all natural method to help her be the best she can be during her postpartum. The modern mom returning to work from maternity leave in your office wearing heels and toting her designer hand bag. She takes a capsule in the morning before heading off to work and another on her lunch break sitting next to you and you never even knew it.

The hippie in the upstairs apartment who dons Birkenstocks and drinks homemade kombucha, and the hipster at your favorite coffee shop, they both chose to have their placenta dried and put into capsules.

Single and married women, moms who birthed via cesarean section, and women who birthed vaginally, they choose placenta encapsulation every day!

Women who are very private and don’t want to hear any negative comments choose to encapsulate their placenta. On the flip side, women who love to get people talking encapsulate their placenta! Moms of singletons and moms of twins, surrogate moms, and women who conceive via I.V.F. choose to consume their placenta in capsule form!

Your boss at work, your church’s secretary, the Obstetrician who helped deliver your baby, your sister in law, and your neighbor all looked to placenta encapsulation to get them through the early weeks after birth!

The mom who is skeptical about everything, the mom who is all about following the latest trends, and the mom who trusts her instincts over all else.

Women who have had postpartum depression in the past and wanted to do all they can to fight against it the second time around, they chose placenta encapsulation!

Women who have just read of the benefits and want to see if it works, women who just want some extra energy and women who have talked to friends who swear by it, that’s who chooses placenta encapsulation!

So, what kind of person eats their placenta? That’s right, all kinds of people!

I think the better question here is:

What kind of person chooses First Coast Doulas for placenta encapsulation?

The answer:

  • Women who care about their safety and the safety of their families.
  • Women who want to receive a professional, compassionate placenta encapsulation experience, not just another service.
  • Women who want to know where their placenta is at and in what conditions it’s kept at all time.
  • Women who wants to know that the capsules they consume are from their placenta and NOONE else’s! YUCK! #blackmarketplacenta #YUCK!

 

Here’s a link to another blog uncovering dirty secrets of placenta encapsulation!

Here’s a link to an article titled Mothers Opt For Placenta Benefits

 

I Just Want a Night with My Friends

I Just Want a Night with My Friends

I just want a night with my friends

New moms give so much of themselves. They undergo rapid changes in pregnancy, like no other time in their lives. They carry and birth their babies and care for them around the clock. Feeding, bathing, dressing, comforting, and providing warmth and love to their babies. Running errands, attending appointments, writing out the bills, cooking, cleaning, and the million and one other things moms to on the daily!

Moms give selflessly day in and day out without complaint. Well, most of the time!

Is it too much for a lady to say, without guilt, “I need a break, just for a little while”, “I have 99 problems, but I just want to ignore them all for a couple hours”?

NO IT’S NOT!

Is it too much for a lady to say, “I need time to be myself, the individual, the person, and not me the maid, cook, referee, nurse, wife and mom? I just want a night with my friends” and actually get it at times?

NOT AT ALL!

Remember, better person, better parent!

From one mother to another I know how it feels to need to be you. I know how it feels to not want to adult every single moment of every single day for months on end without a break. I don’t know about you, but I even adult in my sleep! Even if the new you is in shock and not sure how to do “you” when you get the time!  Even if it’s just for 30 minutes!

We would give our right arm to have me time!

Heck most of us would be happy for a bathroom break alone and not having to crawl to the back of our closets and hide behind the clothes to enjoy a phone call from a friend or our dark chocolate in peace.

Taking time for ourselves is important. It allows us to let loose, relax, socialize with other adult humans and come back to everyday life feeling refreshed and recharged! Setting boundaries for ourselves, for others, giving grace and settling goals and rewards, allows us to be the best me we can be! When our kiddos and spouses push our buttons we are better able to remain calm and focused when we are refreshed!

Ladies, your brilliance amazes us, you are inspirational!

We have designed a package to give you back your time! The First Coast Doulas Ladies Night In Package!

Time so you can enjoy a night with your closest friends! To feel like yourself, to talk girl talk, to laugh, vent, and if you cry you’ll have a shoulder or two to cry on. After all friends are there for good times, bad times, in between times, and all those other times!

This package makes the perfect gift for husbands, best friends, or grandparents to give a new mom!!! Contact us today and get your Ladies Night In on the books and start dreaming about your night!