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My Funny Menstrual Cup Story

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My Funny Menstrual Cup Story

My funny menstrual cup story is an informative blog with a plot twist! My story began with the discovery of this interesting wonder of the World in 2009. Maybe you’ve heard of menstrual cups before, but for many people these cups are a new concept. To my surprise menstrual cups have been around since 1937 and more readily available since the 80’s!

Each month the women’s uterus prepares for a baby. During the months that a baby isn’t developing, the lining of her uterus sheds and brings about menstruation. To think, human existence relies on this… mind blown!

My first thought, “Why haven’t I heard of these before?”

Cue my next thoughts…

How does that work? How messy are they to use? And, finally, why didn’t my mom or friends tell me about this sooner? Why aren’t the Black Eyed Peas singing about these ‘Lovely Lady Cups?’ I felt cheated to say the least.

My research truned up a plethora of information. We’ve included some great links in this blog to help you decide if or which cup is best for you, but let’s be honest, you came to laugh at my funny menstrual cup story!

Wait for it…

The possibility of dropping it in a toilet, especially a public toilet, crossed my mind, but eventually I made my purchase and waited…you know, a whole two days! Amazon prime, free two day shipping for the win! The day came that and I anxiously opened the package and admired the simple design.

I had to try it out… yeah when my cycle returns. So, again I wait…

At last the day came. I read and followed the recommendations in the insert. It took a hot minute to get the hang of getting it seated correctly. I now know this is pretty common until you get the hang of it. Ha, there’s something I never thought I’d say, or blog to the world about!

Once placed it wasn’t much different than a tampon. A little bit of leakage on the first insert each month, but not much at all. I found that by running my finger around the rim inside it helps to form a better seal and avoid leaks. Some say a deep squat helps to seal it.

How long can I really wear this thing before I need to empty it? I know what the recommendations say, but come on; surely it will fill up quick! Nope, not at all. I empty it three times a day and it’s never nearly as full as I imagine it will be.

Over the next few months I utilized this amazing cup without any issues, whatsoever, until early one morning…

Warning: What I am about to share with you may be T.M.I. for some, but it could save you from the absolute disgust and possible mental anguish I experienced. Ok, you’ve been warned!

Half asleep I got up, sun still beneath the horizon and stumbled to the bathroom to pee.

Since the cup felt like it was sliding down a little I knew it need to be emptied. I grabbed the tip, squeezed to break the seal and pulled it out gently. In one easy pulling down motion the slippery little sucker slide out, emptied itself as it jumped right out of my hand and down into the toilet!

Oh shit! Now what?!?!

I stood up, flipped the light on, and looked in the toilet in horror now wide awake. I bent down closer and peered into the toilet frantically and could not see it at all. The water wasn’t just clean, funky toilet water. As you can probably imagine without much details given it was difficult, no it was impossible to see this silicone menstrual cup that’s rather translucent.

Side note; Damn I should have opted for the purple Mooncup.

Worried the cup would go down and get stuck in the plumbing and cause issues, I did the unthinkable. I reached in. Oh, yeah, I confess! I’ve dealt with the funkiest of funk, I have kids after all, but this this menstrual catastrophe freaked me out in more than one way.

To think, I laughed at the section in the insert about emptying in the shower. I wrote that idea off and I thought, ain’t nobody got time for that! Ladies, the alternative is this, and this is gross.

Think that is shocking?

Imagine the despair I felt when I couldn’t find it. Just gone! Nowhere to be found. Not in the toilet, nor on the floor, I was not dreaming, it was poof just gone. Disappearing menstrual cup, they didn’t mention this little tid-bit of information when I read the insert. Where could it have gone? I grabbed a glove, threw it on, and reached in again. I cringed as the water went into the top of the glove. Why?!?!?

I could not believe this was my life at that very moment. It was not there, I have NO answer as to where the Houdini cup went. I mean, doesn’t one have to flush the toilet for it to go down?

Scrubbing my hands in disbelief, like a mad woman. I start thinking about how I will explain this to my husband.

Then I think, I wonder if anyone else I know has had this happen to them. I reached out to some of my lady friends who have been using these cups for a while, because unlike me they knew about this wonder of the world. As it turns out several of them have dropped their menstrual cup in the toilet too.

Hello! There is a club for all of us menstrual cup losers! Ha, see what I did there!

They however found theirs. Some tossed it, others washed and boiled it to sanitize. This was not my luck today. So, what do I do? Imagine the look on the plumbers face if I have to explain this to him. Yeah, not happening.

Before telling my husband I decide I should go to the store and get a kit so he can pull the toilet up and retrieve the cup before it causes problems further down the sewage line.

I put a note on the toilet that said, “Do not flush.”

Low and behold as I return home he’s coming out of said bathroom and asks me what happened. To which I re-lived every single detail. I then told him I felt very bad about it and showed him the supplies I went to two stores to get.

He laughed!

He laughed and then he asked me how bad I wanted it back. I wasn’t sure I wanted it back, but I didn’t want it to mess up the plumbing. He had himself a nice laugh as he walked to the bathroom, and then he flushed it. Yep, he flushed my cup. I wanted to cry. Surely this would force it further into the pipes, right? He explained after he stopped laughing that the sewage pipes are 4 inches in diameter and that flushing it would cause no harm.

Looks like I panicked for nothing!  I am persistent and loved my cup so much that I went on to buy another Diva cup and a less expensive cup called the Mooncup and I love both equally.

Do you have any funny or slightly weird menstrual cup stories to share? If you do and you dare to share we would love to hear from you!

I wish knew about the cup sooner because it’s possible that:

  • I wouldn’t have worried about toxic shock syndrome.
  • I would have saved thousands of dollars on my monthly cycle.
  • I would have made less negative impact on our Earth.

It’s also quite possible that someone may have just warned me to hold onto the slippery sucker in the wee morning hours. Even better, just empty in the shower in the morning!

Authored by Elizabeth Luke, owner of The Jax Baby Company, serving families in Jacksonville, FL and the surrounding areas

This video uses an anatomical model to show you how to insert and remove your menstrual cup.

Here are some links to help you in your search for the perfect menstrual cup or two!

http://menstrualcup.co/compare-menstrual-cups/

https://menstrualcups.wordpress.com/category/comparisons/

http://menstrual-cups.livejournal.com/473758.html

Can Doulas Prevent Cesarean Deliveries?

Can Doulas Prevent Cesarean Deliveries? Jax, FL Doulas

Can Doulas Prevent Cesarean Deliveries?

The World Health Organization reaffirms that the best outcomes for women and babies appear to occur with cesarean section rates of 5% to 10%. Rates above 15% seem to do more harm than good. In and around Jacksonville, Florida the average is above 30% for cesarean birth.

Many people wonder, can doulas prevent cesarean deliveries?

The American Congress of Obstetricians and Gynecologists (ACOG) states that increasing women’s access to nonmedical interventions during labor, such as continuous labor and delivery support, also has been shown to reduce cesarean birth rates.

Yes, this means doulas!

This statement, however, can be a little misleading. Hiring a doula may reduce your need for a cesarean birth, but it doesn’t prevent the medical need or personal desire for a cesarean birth. So the answer to the question, can doulas prevent cesarean deliveries is no. Prevent, no. Reduce the chances, maybe. If you end up with a truly amazing doula!

At The Jacksonville Baby Company, we know that less than 5% of couples giving birth today are hiring doulas.

That’s a really small number of birthing people. The evidence shows that doulas can help reduce the risk of an unwanted cesarean birth. That’s exciting news for families seeking a vaginal birth! You know what’s even more exciting? The power the birthing person has to reduce those risks without hiring a doula!

The power to reduce risks and set someone up for a more satisfying birth experience does not lie with any doula!

The power has always and will always be with you, the person preparing to give birth! There isn’t some magical fairly doula who swoops in and fixes all the things, protects you, and wards off interventions. Grab hold, step up, and slay! That power has always been yours! Just like Dorthy with those ruby slippers!

We support you and believe in you no matter how you give birth!

You may have heard that it’s important to choose a doula whose philosophy about birth matches your philosophy. It sounds great in theory, but consider this: selecting someone based on their ideas about birth may set you up to feel less supported and more judged should your plans change. This happens everytime that a doula comes with a philosophy. We think hiring a doula is great IF that’s what you want, but doulas can’t “prevent” c-section births.

I’ve attended over 200 births and even the most well-written birth plans have NEVER been executed exactly as they were designed to.

There is immeasurable beauty in that! There is, believe me I have witnessed it time and time again! One of our clients said it best, “It was nothing like I planned, but everything I hoped it would be!” Plans often change based as new information arises or as your desires change when you’re in the thick of it….and that is MORE THAN OKAY!

A solid childbirth education course is life!

Knowledge is power! One way you can be proactive in your birth experience is to take a childbirth class, but not just any old class! Be selective!  Hospital classes are designed to teach you about stages and phases of labor and some of your “options” they prefer you to utilize while in their hospital. These classes usually explain some of what to expect at that particular hospital, what is “allowed” or “against policy” and a picture of the ideal birth unfolding. Not to shabby, but not all it could be! In a method-based class you will learn one method for managing labor pains…and that’s about it. I mean if that method ends up being what you need in labor, great! If not you might find yourself feeling…. well fill in the blank.

If the method I learned doesn’t help me manage pain in labor, I will probably feel ______________.

At The Jax Baby Company, we nail it, every time!

We come to you with a wide range of experience, knowledge, and research-based education, not our opinions (you know what they say about opinions, they’re like…..). We tailor what and how we teach to our student’s needs! We teach multiple tools and strategies for all the variations of labor AND we cover postpartum and newborn care!

Even though we have the skill set and expertise we know you run the show! Your parenting style and choices for your family will be supported whether that means babywearing or strolling, formula or breast, epidural or barking like a dog while howling and crying, we got you! We support families that bed share and sleep train, who shares cookies with a mouse in a house while baking a cake and wearing a rake! Our support does not include “BUT”.

There are no “buts” with The Jax Baby Company.

Doulas can’t prevent cesarean deliveries! Our classes can help reduce the chances you’ll have one if you are planning for a vaginal birth, and will help you plan and prepared for a cesarean birth should you end up needing one or even just want one.

You+ Your Partner + The Jax Baby Company = Kick Ass Team

Happy Birth & Parenting!

Parenting is like a plate of spaghetti | Jax FL Infant Sleep

Sources:

ACOG- Safe-Prevention-of-the-Primary-Cesarean-Delivery

Childbirth Connection- Evidence for Doulas

 

 

Top Must Haves for Expecting Parents

Must Haves for Expecting Parents

You’ve bought the crib, car seat, and most of the cloths, but what are the other must haves for expecting parents? You’re as ready as you know how to be, but what else? We’re sharing the top must haves for expecting parents! We’ll give details on the top three and then provide you with a list and links for everything else! Prep work simplified!

Must Haves for Expecting Parents

#1 An Excellent Childbirth Education Class

Parents welcoming babies is 2018 live demanding lives and require a class that is comprehensive, convenient, and engaging. An excellent class will prepare couples for both medicated and non-medicated birth as well as vaginal and cesarean.

Classes can vary greatly both in cost and in what’s taught. Some classes focus on what to expect at a specific place of birth, facility protocol if you will. Others focus on just one “method” like hypnosis or partner advocacy while others, like the one’s listed below focus on understanding the process in depth, learning different tools, and a satisfying experience.

The Confident Birth & Parenting Class and The Prepared Parent Childbirth Class are excellent classes that also teach the  physical happenings of pregnancy and birth, how to navigate the variations of birth, comfort and coping techniques, and how to have a more satisfying experience overall. These classes help the couple build upon their relationship whether your main support person is your mother, partner, or best friend.

More parents are opting for private one on one courses that are completed within a couple of days as opposed to classes that can last four, six, or twelve weeks in length.

 

 

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Must Haves for Expecting Parents

 #2 Placenta Encapsulation

I know that placenta capsules is not something you’ve likely ever considered. If you know without a doubt that placenta encapsulation isn’t for you feel free to skip this section. It’s not for everyone and that is okay!

Women who have ingested their placenta in capsules have reported that it gave them more energy, helped their breastmilk supply, reduced the incident of postpartum sadness, and helped them feel better over all. The capsules are no different than any other dried, powdered capsule supplement you may have taken except that it is made for you, by you and contains what your body may need specifically!

Professional placenta encapsulation is something to consider, but your safety should always be of the utmost importance. Here are a few ways to help you stay as safe as possible and benefit from your placenta rather than worry with unsafe practices.

  • No one should ever pick up your placenta and drop off capsules.
  • You should always be provided a face to face visit.
  • Your “specialist”should have attended an in person training, have obtained certification and have said certification for that training as well as for OSHA and a Food Handlers certification too.
  • I’d take it a set further and verify that they are running a legal business.

Must Haves for Expecting Parents

#3 An Antepartum or Postpartum & Infant Doula

It’s totally a thing and a thing we’re really good at! Lets begin with the end in mind shall we. It’s been a week since you came home with your baby and everyone is getting back to life as usual. Well, except for you. You haven’t slept more than a solid couple hour in days, maybe a week. Sleep deprivation is taking its toll.  You have this perfect little human in your arms that you are “learning” and who looks to you for everything. You’re nursing around the clock, cramping, changing diapers and running to the bathroom to change pads so you don’t leak out onto your new sexy mesh panties.

You are not feeling very sure of yourself or your abilities at this point and know you could really use some support, but you don’t want to ask and you’re not even sure what to ask for exactly. No one told you about this part. The books never described this. I mean maybe it did, but it’s hitting home now.

Now, imagine you have someone who comes to your home 2-3 times a week to focus on helping you! A postpartum doula has specific training in all things postpartum. This type of doula can do things like; light housekeeping, teach hands on all things baby related, run errands for you and with you. A postpartum doula listens and sometimes she is just there for positive support and cup of tea and conversation. A postpartum doula is a wealth of knowledge and she encourages healthy habits.

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Birth Affirmations

 

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Birth Affirmations

There are many ways that people prepare for childbirth, one way is by reading birth affirmations. Other expectant couples prepare by reading books, listening to podcasts, while some choose to take the “do nothing special approach” and wing it! About 5% of pregnant people will hire a doula to support them during their birth. Taking an excellent birth class though seems to be high on the preparedness list! There is no right or wrong, no cookie cutter way to prepare yourself for birth.

Reading positive birth affirmations and real birth stories is a great way to prepare for your big day!

Each person who takes one of our childbirth class has access to the V.I.P. section on our website! There are gorgeous birth affirmations you can print off and use throughout your pregnancy, either alone or with her partner. These affirmation are a great way to get the mind prepared for positive thoughts and feelings towards your body and to welcome labor and birth in a confident, non-fearful manner!

It was hard to choose, but here are our top 3 favorite birth affirmations;

#3 Is about intentional and purposeful breathing

I breath in deeply, inhaling peace.

I breath out slowly, exhaling tension.

My jaw is loose, my throat open.

I make only low deep tones.

#2 Confronts that concern some women have about their baby fitting through the birth canal

My body is built to adapt.

My body will provide a wide open space for my baby to descend.

There is nothing in the way.

#1 Takes on fear directly

I am driven by knowledge and instinct, not fear or emotion.

My body contains all the knowledge necessary to birth my baby!

I am safe, my baby is safe, I trust my care team!

Join the hundreds of parents who are part of the V.I.P.  club! Contact us today! What are you waiting for?

Happy Birth & Parenting!

~Elizabeth

No Way, Our Daughters Are Watching; I Got Schooled By A Six Year Old

The other evening my six year old daughter says, “Mommy, tomorrow I would like to give you a make over.”

I responded with, “a make over! Why, do you think I need a make over?” 

“I think you’re beautiful, but I want to do your make up” she exclaims! 

“o.k., well I don’t see why not, that’ll be fun, ” I replied hesitantly. 

The next thing I know my daughter comes walking in and says, “I just need you to sign this contract to schedule your make over.” 

Imagine my surprise! I giggled and said, “I don’t know if I can do that. What if I have to attend a birth tomorrow and I can’t get my make over?”

She was adamant that I needed to sign that contract and schedule this make over for tomorrow. She was not taking no for an answer. This was a challenge because I do not like to commit to anything with out knowing I am free to do so. Even still I don’t make promises often to my children or tell them when we have a trip to the river or beach planned because, well, I just don’t like to make promises I may not be able to keep. I am loyal and committed and if I let my children down what kind of an example am I setting for them. It’s my thing, they know if mom says she is going to do it, it’s as good as done! If mom won’t commit we know she is being real. It’s part of my legacy I want to leave behind for them, in them. Reluctantly I signed the contract, more so focused on the ‘what if’ mindset rather than reading the contract. SMH.

Well, low and behold I received a call about 3:30 a.m. from a doula client in Jacksonville who was in labor. At 7 a.m. it was time, I rolled over kissed my baby girl on the head and proceeded to get a move on to that mama and her partner. The birth was beautiful, it was peaceful and it was reasonably quick for a first time mom, but still it is work for the doula as well. Blessed and beautiful, my hearts work, but still it’s work. I drove home and started the second part of the services this client secured, placenta encapsulation.

Fast forward to the next morning, my baby girl wakes up, walks out to the kitchen and before we start school she put the contract on the table, my heart sunk into my stomach. I said, “about that make over, I’m really sorry babe, but one of my clients in Jacksonville needed her doula to come, she had her beautiful baby yesterday.

She smiles and politely says, “well, that will be $35.”

“$35 for what little missy?” I ask

Her reply blew me A-WAY, “$35 for breaking the contract and missing your appointment, and please don’t call me little missy, I don’t like that, my name is LeeAnna.”

I replied, “Listen, LeeAnna I’m really sorry I wasn’t able to be here, I told you there was the possibility I would have to go to a birth.”

“Mom,” she says, “it doesn’t matter what you said because you signed the contract and it says right there it’s $35 if you don’t get your make over. Pay up!”

“LeeAnna, can I reschedule it,” I asked hoping this would suffice my daughter.

“You sure can, but you still owe $35 for missing your appointment with me. You can’t break contract you know.” she says with her most sincere, sweet little voice.

Now, imagine me, sitting here at the table now with this beautiful little girl in front of me, essentially schooling me in what she has learned about business….just by watching me. I look at her and say, “Go brush your hair and get dressed while I think about this!”

Ten minutes later she comes back in and says, “Mom, when you say it you mean it girl! I mean what I say too!”

I smiled and said, “yeah you’re not kidding are you? Can I work it off, like make you breakfast and do some of your laundry or something?”

My daughter says, “I’m gonna cut you a break since you’re my mom and I love you! How about we do the laundry together, you let me stay up later tonight (Y’all don;t know how late this child can stay up, we home school, so we do what works for our family and that is a 10 p.m. bedtime most nights) and you take me for an ice cream?”

“DEAL! That I can do!”

Followed by a new contract signing for my make over that night!

I’m leaving behind a legacy for my daughter and my sons, one of honesty and loyalty and one that takes no crap from anyone!

I’m also raising a daughter who recognizes it’s not o.k. to call people names like, little missy and that it’s ok to stick to your guns! 

Ladies, we have to keep pressing on in business, in honesty and in life; our daughters are watching!

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Can My Husband Be My Doula?

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Can My Husband Be My Doula?

“Can my husband be my doula?” The short answer to that question is no, but stay with us and read more to find the beautiful reasons!

Your partner is your numero uno! As you begin the most important experience of your lives together, there will be many things you must work through and trust each other with. Together you’re moving through each week of pregnancy, things are changing, and your hearts’ are preparing a place for your baby.

In preparation one thing you may have considered is the support of a professional doula. You’ve done some research and have heard that hiring the right doula can increase the likelihood that you’ll give birth feeling supported, encouraged, and having your voice heard regardless of what type of birth you are planning for.

You’re sold, but your husband is not.

Perhaps when you’ve presented the idea he’s responded with, “I’ll be your doula!” Your husband likely has his own idea of how he would like the birth to be. It’s true, guys think about the birth too! Two of the biggest concerns husbands have when introduced to the idea of a doula is that the doula may try and to replace them or make decisions for you.

Wrong! The Jax Baby Company team does not make any decisions for you regarding your care.

Doulas are not qualified to do so, ever, under any circumstances. At The Jax Baby Company, we understand the role and scope of the profession. We certainly do not think so much of ourselves to say we can replace your husband or make him feel removed from your birth experience together. In fact, The JBC nurtures your unity!!!

The Jax Baby Company team knows that your husband’s top priority is safety, but he also wants you to look to him for comfort and support. Ten-four! We hear him loud and clear!

This is a great place to stop reading, grab your husband, and finish this blog together. Maybe over dinner or a lunch date!

Husbands I reach out to you!

You’re her confidant and her rock. You’re emotionally and spiritually connected to her, she has chosen to co-create life with Y-O-U! She needs you and you provide her things that no one else could ever provide her!

You know her intimately.

Doulas know birth intimately.

Your wife loves and respects you and your position and would love to have you on board with hiring a doula. She wants support for both of you during the birth of your baby! You know her likes and dislikes and all her little quirks. She loves you so much that she is likely willing to waver in what she feels is the best approach to birth; a professional support person. All in honor of you.

Now she is questioning, “Can my husband be my doula?”

Can you really be professional through an experience that you are emotionally invested in? Can you detach from your own experience and draw collectively from your knowledge base to think one step ahead and support her?

Not really. Not unless you are a doula and this is not your wife and baby!

You want to feel all the feels and you are emotionally invested in this experience. You deserve that and she deserves all of you. This is your day too! When birth is imminent she will need you to be her foundation for strength. What if the strategies you learned in class aren’t coming to the forefront in your mind? First Coast Doulas has you covered!

What about her desires for this birth?

Your wife is about to birth a small human from her body, enter into motherhood, and start an entirely new chapter in her life, with you, her husband. She wants a doula because she wants this to be the very best experience for both of you, not to replace you. No one can do that!

You are her husband, her main support person, but you cannot be her doula.

She wants a doula, whose sole role is constant support, comfort, and a calm presence so the two of you can work through it, together. Her providers and nurses will pop in and out and at minimum have a handful of other patients to care for.

She wants the two of you to get off to a wonderful start caring for your baby. She wants someone to show you the things that you can do to help her and someone to support you both immediately after birth. She doesn’t want the pressure on you to have to do and be all the things.

She wants emotional support, encouragement, and sometimes guidance from a professional who is not part of the health care system. A doula is familiar with birth and understands the physical and emotional aspects. A doula knows what the variations of normal are and what is happening within her laboring body.

Can she do it without a doula? Sure she can, but women who are hiring professional doulas experienced a:

  • 14% decrease in the risk of newborns being admitted to a special care nursery
  • 34% decrease in the risk of being dissatisfied with the birth experience

Your wife doesn’t want to replace you or waste money on something frivolous.

She wants to invest in an experience with you! She will remember this day for the rest of her life. A trail guide is a valid request when climbing Mount Everest, as is a doula for the birth of your baby.

Trust is one of the most important components in any healthy relationship, especially marriage.

Often times we talk through things until we find a solution. Other times we have to trust that while something may seem crazy in our minds, it can make perfect sense to our spouse. Then because you love each other one decides to just let go and trust the other!

I encourage you to revisit the idea of a doula and trust that your wife knows what she is talking about! Join her this investment. She trusts herself and her judgment. Have some faith in that. Allow her room to move confidently from pregnancy, through labor, and into motherhood while you, her husband, trust in her investment in your future together.

Contact The Jax Baby Company today to set up a complimentary consult for you and your spouse!

Childbirth Isn’t Confusing, but “Born in the Wild” Is!

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Childbirth Isn’t Confusing, but “Born in the Wild” Is!

All this talk, all these previews, and all this…confusion…what’s a person to do? Don’t get me wrong, I enjoy a good bowl of popcorn and I am always ready to don a full Elizabethan collar in the name of drama. But drama needs to serve a greater purpose of clarity and insight, especially when the context encompasses current maternal and perinatal issues.

Lifetime’s “Born in the Wild” sends completely confusing messages that in the current climate of the birth world, only further polarizes opinions and creates “camps”.

How is it confusing?

For many, the show leaves these questions:

  • Are the births completely unassisted or are they basically homebirths outside?
  • Is this dangerous and worthy of full-force, adrenaline pumping fear, or not?
  • Are all people who choose out-of-hospital childbirth, distrustful hippies?

The answers to these questions are not so easily discernible and the last thing we need is confusion:

  • According to Lifetime, the births are midwife-assisted. So, the expectant parents are indeed privy to medical care.  However, most are birthing outside, making these births pretty much homebirths, which when planned and attended by skilled care providers, are a safe option for low-risk women with healthy babies.

But…

  • You might not know that (birth at home can be safe) based on the high-octane music and footage used in the docuseries due to the very nature of the program to sensationalize the events. For the most part, childbirth is a normal and natural event, BUT, yes, even in the best of circumstances and care, it can go very wrong very quickly.  This dichotomy is what has caused many to espouse hospital birth as the only safe option, or for the other “side” to vehemently claim that homebirth is the only safe option, so as to avoid unnecessary interventions and overly cautious surgeons, which leads to…
  • Just like any other generalization, it is not fair or accurate to paint parents who choose homebirth as distrustful hippies. However, because of current statistics, such as very high cesarean rates, some people do choose to avoid hospital birth due to fear.

“Born in the Wild” doesn’t make any of these questions or their answers clear, and what the viewer sees or is enticed to feel, is fear.

Fear is an interesting emotion and motivator.  Most people now only see childbirth in the media, which is almost always sensationalized and polarized, (being based in fear and ignorance) including in “Born in the Wild”.  These portrayals create this confused, mixed-up internal message that many will recognize,

“Birth is dangerous,
Birth needs to be managed,
intervention use is too heavy, maybe unnecessary
natural birth is better
I should avoid doctors at all costs
it’s always a matter of life and death…cycle repeat!

So what is it?

Rather than explanations of our collective fear AND accurate information on global safety, policies, attitudes, and traditions regarding childbirth, we get these snippets of “information”, and more so, we get agendas and opinions from TV, blogs, and your grandmother/sister/best friend.   Because in reality, ALL of these things can be simultaneously true!  Funnily enough, many people are surprised to discover that life, and the events in it, are not always black/white and either/or.

The Jacksonville Baby Company ensures that our clients have access to the most recent, non-biased, and peer-reviewed research. Our childbirth classes are top-notch, engaging, and science and evidence-based. We do not share our personal opinions on YOUR birth choices and we NEVER encourage decisions based on fear. We encourage candid talk with your providers, critical analysis of material, and authentic trust in your knowledge and intuition.

“Born in the Wild” only touches on these diverse issues and thus perpetuates confusion with dramatic birth sequences that have been the industry standard the last 30 years.

Happy Birth & Parenting!

~Heather Horrell

 

Sources:

Cheyney, M., Borbjerg, M., Everson, C., Gordon, W., Hannibal, D. & Vedam, S. (2014).  Outcomes of Care for 16,924 Planned Home Births in the United States: The Midwives Alliance of North America Statistics Project, 2004 to 2009. Journal of Midwifery and Women’s Health. 59(1), 17-27.

Geerts, C., Klomp, T., Lagro-Janssen, A., Twisk, J., V.Dillen, J., & Jonge, A. (2014).  Birth setting, transfer and maternal sense of control: results from the DELIVER study.  BMC Pregnancy and Childbirth.  14(1), 1-21.

 

Sex After Having A Baby

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Sex After Having A Baby

Let’s talk about having sex after having a baby! It’s the question many new parents wonder about. You’ll visit your doctor or midwife who will give you the go-ahead, or not, to resume sexual intercourse.  However, your doctor may not have a sit-down, one-to-one pep talk about sex after having a baby with you.

There are so many questions that arise, none of which come to mind while you’re actually in the doctor’s office.

Will sex hurt? Will I tear? Is it going to feel the same? What if I don’t feel ready to have sex? Will my milk let down? How do I  find the time? Where do you put the baby? Do I really have to wait six weeks? Write your most pressing questions down to take them with you to your appointment or schedule a consult with us! We often talk openly about topics many would consider TMI, one of which is sex after having a baby.

We will cover some of the basics here!

First, yes, it’s important that you wait the full six weeks before resuming sexual intercourse. Otherwise, pain during intercourse is just one of the not-so-great possibilities.  At the six week checkup, your doctor or midwife will do a vaginal exam, check your uterus, and talk to you about birth control if they haven’t already. It’s really a good idea to talk about sex after birth with them during your third trimester and discuss what birth control if any, you’d like to utilize.

It takes up to a full six weeks or more for the wound in your uterus to heal completely after giving birth.

The wound is left by the separation of the placenta from the wall of your uterus and is rather large.  Until then, there is literally an area in your womb that is open and is prone to infection.  Your cervix that is closed before pregnancy and became loose, stretchy, and slightly to completely dilated during birth has to firm and close back up.

Nothing can be inserted into the vagina during this time period even if you feel ready.

This is also the reason tampons and menstrual cups are discouraged. Also, believe it or not, you can get pregnant immediately following a baby.  This is 100% true, even for those who are exclusively breastfeeding on demand.

Anyway, on to the next question:  will having sex after having a baby hurt?

For some women, yes, sex can be uncomfortable since there is still lingering tenderness.  The blood vessels and nerve endings in the perineum have to readjust.  Within a few weeks, however, any pain should subside.  Believe it or not, sex might change-what was previously your favorite position might be “blah” now and vice versa.

Rest assured, unless there have been some extreme circumstances during your birth (i.e. 4th-degree tears), your vagina/labia/other female parts are still fully functional and are just as admirable as they were previously. If vaginal intercourse doesn’t work, well, there are other ways of “doing it”.

So, the next question: what should you do about the newest member of the family while you’re having sex?

The human population has survived 5000+ years-meaning, this would be the perfect time for baby to (finally) sit in that bouncy seat, or (finally) explore his crib and nifty mobile.  After all, sometimes waiting until the baby is asleep isn’t feasible, after all, you’re trying to take all the, “sleep when the baby sleeps” advice to heart! Another idea, call in your postpartum doula to take the baby for a stroll or take over baby duties entirely for the evening. Please, your postpartum doula has no qualms about you having sex in the other room, she gets it! She will not make you feel weird about it in any way!

Sex post-baby is quite the adventure and there are sure to be some events that constitute a new normal…like milk spraying or dripping everywhere! It’s no big deal. Really. It may take some time to get back to it, especially if it is difficult for you to reconcile your changed identity as a former sex goddess turned mom.

Remember, it doesn’t have to actually be sex if you aren’t ready! You can take your time, spend lots of one on one time just being close and intimate in other ways if you’re just not there yet!

For some women, the idea that you can still crave sexual intimacy with your partner and be a fantastic mother is foreign and can induce feelings of guilt.

It doesn’t have to be a guilty pleasure!

Remember, women are complex humans. If pain or fear or feelings of guilt are impacting your newly restarted sex life, there are a number of resources, beginning with your doctor or midwife, and it is important to discuss these issues with them. Otherwise, get out your favorite lube and get to it!

Side note, coconut oil is amazing used as a lubricant, but is not safe for all forms of birth control! You’re welcome!

Happy Birth & Parenting!

That seems a bit….odd for this blog post!

Happy Intimate Adventures!

~The Jax Baby Company

20 Random Facts About Heather Horrell

Heather Horrell Postpartum Doula Jax

20 Random Facts About Heather Horrell

In honor of World Doula Week, we decided to share a few fun blogs about the amazing doulas who work with families trusting The Jax Baby Company team with their care! We are all about sharing a smile, a laugh, and a hug from time to time!

Here are 20 random facts about Heather Horrell:

1. I’m a Potterhead (i.e. I LOVE all things Harry Potter)

2. I love Hello Kitty, Sanrio, and all things “kawaii” or cute

3. I lived in Okinawa for 6 months and loved it. I very badly want to go back and plan on making extended vacations in that little paradise.

4. “Full House” was one of my favorite shows as a kid. Now, our family structure is very similar and it’s awesome!

5. I’m NOT a picky eater. The only things I don’t like are hominy, figs, and a few other things I can’t remember at the moment.

6. I never ever thought I’d tandem nurse OR nurse a three-year-old, but here I am!

7. I love the ocean and feel claustrophobic when I’m not near the coast.

8. I LOVE, LOVE, LOVE anything fantasy.  Comic books, Harry Potter, LOTR, Dr. Who, Harry Potter, etc.  Did I mention Harry Potter?

9. My favorite women at the moment are Tina Fey, Amy Poehler, and Mindy Kaling.

10. Even though I got married and had kids while in school, I’ve never “dropped out”. I always kept going even when it was hard. I like to think that maybe that determination can make an impression on them. My degrees weren’t even really for professional gain either. I just love to learn and explore educational opportunities.

11. A goal of mine is to trek through the Himalayas. Nepal and Tibet are enigmatic. I need to go.

12. I can’t walk into a Michaels, Joann’s, or Hobby Lobby without trying to clear all the shelves. I almost always end up spending money!

13. Other career options that I’ve considered or would be in another life: interior designer, architect, city planner, philosopher, professor, and doctor!

14. I’m always critiquing shit.  Like, not in a negative way, more of in an organizational way. It’s hard to explain my thought process.

15. I love all colors, but I’m drawn towards aqua, turquoise, teal, periwinkle, and indigo.

16. Random unnecessary electronics and gadgets fascinate me. That was one of my favorite parts of Japan. They’re everywhere. And silly commercials.

17. I’ve never been ice skating.

18. I want a Dyson just because the man’s voice is soothing. Oh, and they’re awesome!

19. I love the dentist and getting my teeth cleaned.

20. Looking at the stars, reading physics & astronomy, and viewing photographs of space soothe me.

…And a pinch to grow an inch.

21. I worry my children won’t get along with each other as they grow older.

It’s one of my worst fears. I want them to appreciate and love each other and their respective families. I want to be involved in their (and their family’s) lives, especially future grandbabies. (Yea, already planning that far ahead!) I want them to know I respect them and love them and am happy to be their parent, confidant, and friend.

Thank you for letting me share with you! We enjoy working with families and getting to know them. We thought what a nice way to let our community know a little more about us. Be sure to check out Elizabeth’s blog as well as Madeleine’s blog to learn a little more about them!

Happy birth and parenting!

~Heather Horrell

20 Random Facts about Elizabeth Luke

Totally Random Facts | Fun Doulas in Jax FL

20 Random Facts about Elizabeth Luke

As professional doulas we spend a good bit of time getting to know families we work with. In honor of World Doula Week, we thought it would be fun to share some totally random facts about our doulas with all of you!

This week we are featuring Elizabeth Luke. Most of you know Elizabeth as the owner of The Jax Baby Company, but here are some things you probably don’t know about her:

1. Some of my bucket list items include: visit a legit nude beach (nude of course), wedding crash (but only for fun, nothing destructive or hurtful), complete a section hike of the Appalachian Trail (working on that), convert a school bus into a tiny house and travel for one year!

2. I love to float it’s super relaxing!

Free-float! That would be floating without the use of a floatation device. Also known to some as therapeutic floating. Sometimes I meditate while floating and I’ve been known to fall asleep while floating. My absolute favorite place to float is Ichetucknee Springs.

3. I enjoy a wide variety of music.

Some of my favorite artists include Jewel, Dido, Pink, Sublime, Linkin Park, Tool, AC/DC, Metallica, Elton John, and Garth Brooks. My sympathetic nervous system is especially sensitive to music. Sometimes I get goosebumps, cry, or both.

4. My favorite color is green. Purple and indigo are right behind green!

5. I can touch my nose with my tongue, but not my tongue to my elbow, lol!

6. My Zodiac sign is Cancer and I really can’t imagine ever living in a place where I am not close to water!

7. Born and raised in the south, but the only tea I like is kombucha. #truth

8. Two places I want to visit are Alaska and Ireland. I want to see castles, countryside, and the northern lights!

9. My favorite dessert is cheesecake with just about any good topping. I’m really not a picky eater!

10. I was once a beekeeper and LOVED it!

11. I own less than 10 pairs of shoes. Yes, total!

12. One instrument I would love to learn to play is a guitar.

13. Elizabeth loves deep sea fishing with her husband, garlic, and lavender. Not necessarily together!

14. Elizabeth once saran-wrapped one of her teenagers to his mattress (no names shared) when he was asleep on the floor!

Mommy Dearest? No! Practical jokester? Absolutely!

He had company over and put his mattress on the floor in the living room. When he passed out first she and her accomplices wrapped him from the chest to the feet. Good times! They laughed extensively. He awoke to go to the bathroom and what happens next she swore she’d never tell!

15. I thoroughly enjoy cooking!

16. Eggplant parmesan and porterhouse steak on the grill are my specialties.

17. What her 35-year-old self would tell her 15-year-old self:

Enjoy your youth, slow down. Be nicer to your mother. Learn to love yourself first. Always trust your intuition! Start a daily exercise routine and eat better! Laugh every chance you get, especially at yourself! Learn to say no with confidence, without apology, and without explanation.

18. I was almost named Sarah.

19. I’ve only flown once in my life!

20. When I was about 10 years old I competed in a biscuit eating contest and won!

Our lives are so uniquely us! It’s not what happens to us, but how we decide to handle what we’ve been dealt that matters. Smile! Laugh! And most of all be true to you! We would LOVE to learn some totally random facts about you. Feel free to share in the comment section.

Happy Birth and Parenting!

~Elizabeth Luke